#I need some help coming out to my mom

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digital moat
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so basically, last time i tried to come out to my mom, she gave me this huge lecture on labeling yourself, and how it's just a phase, when it's obviously not. After she did, it made me scared to come out of the closet. So now that its been so long since then, i need some help figuring out how to tell her. Any advice?

lean bridge
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Maybe try explaining the Sexuality isn't a phase and it's what stays for your whole life if someone has is attracted to 2 genders it isn't likely to change

odd fiber
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no what i did is just bottle it up and cause a lot of stress for myself

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then i came out to my friends and my lacrosse team and felt better

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then after like 4 years i confronted my parents about it

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my dad was like its ok you are who you are

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my mother didn't know what she said caused me so much stress

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my parents still think my dad not being emotionally available caused me to seek out emotional intimacy from other men which could be true but at this point they know how i see it and i kind of just stopped caring

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what really helped is finding spaces to be openly lgbtq+, even if it's just that space for me

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and i wish i did so earlier instead of bottling it all up

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as much as it sucks to, she needs time to come to terms with it. you coming out is like planting a seed in her head, but this seed needs time and triggers to sprout and time for the plant of acceptance to grow.

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i'm saying this from a position of "i wish i did XYZ differently which might have caused me less mental stress" but you likely have different feelings and different ways to deal with stress so i'd take what i say with a grain of salt

digital moat
gusty ruin
digital moat
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tbh, my parents are divorced, and i already told my dad and stepmom 💀

gusty ruin
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My parents never married ans they are seperated but i do think my mum is more supportive than my dad

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My dad has made both positive and negative remarks so it's confusing