god i want to come out so bad. i want my family to be proud of my identity. but my mom is a christian republican who hates trans people and i don't think she likes gay people but she can tolerate them. my dad? idk i think he's chill but i'm scared to risk it. i'm pan (known since 4th grade) and genderfluid (known for a few months now). during covid, i came out as bi and she said she still loved me & she'd never stop loving me for that but i'm too scared to risk it and try again. she only believes in 2 genders. plus things are really different between us now. i'm out to some close friends. i haven't changed my name yet even though i want to, i'm thinking abt making it Skyler. my friends use they/them for me. i want to cut my hair super short. i have a mid length wolf cut rn but it still feels too fem. i've had gfs she didn't know about. she forgot i was bi after like a week during 4th grade and she always asks now when i'm gonna have a bf. i'm so uncomfortable, especially when she introduces me as her "daughter." i want to tell her, i really do, but i'm too scared and i don't think theres any chance that she will accept. send help.... what do i do?? (i can move out in 3/4 years bc i'll be an adult then btw)
#how. just how.
outer beacon
cold mica
Hey, I hear you. I want to start by saying this clearly: you’re not alone, and your identity is real and valid, even if the people around you don’t understand it yet—or maybe never do. If you have any feeling that coming out could lead to being kicked out, emotionally abused, or put in danger, it’s okay to wait. Please know that you don’t owe anyone your full truth until it’s safe for you to share it.