My mental health hasn't been the best, i dont laugh the same, i don't find stuff funny like i use to, i lost interest with alot of things i use to love, i use to be so outgoing, and all that. I got 4 kids of my own and it's an everyday struggle between my two younger kids (both boys, 3 & 5 months old) always wanting my attention but due to my 5 month old being a premmie it's so hard to put him down even when he's fully asleep he can be fed changed and all and have a fit once being put down he was in the hospital for 4 months after being born at 28 weeks. He takes alot of medication (blood pressure, help with his fast breathing and w.e else) he also has multiple appointments I have to set up and get done, Yes i am dating someone he works mostly afternoons and is always tired. Also yes he is also all of my kids father as well i wish he would help more but i get work can be tiring taking care of 4 kids is a big job as well tho that is 24/7 there is no breaks. i get very overwhelmed and overstimulated alot of times while taken care of our kids because once i know i've tried everything i can to make them happy and my youngest still goes all out screaming it's really upsetting that i can't do better for him plus he feels what i feel and i just feel bad for him i honestly don't think i got a connection to him due to i was not ready for this baby and he is already here i have no choice now, i always said i wasn't ready it was unexpected but yes (two to tango) but it's just adding more to my plate i already deal with postpartum,anxiety and depression LONGGGGG before all of this happening. I am very anti-social and alot take that personally. i stay to myself recharge i don't reach and talk to people really NOT even family. this is just a small portion of what I am dealing with....Some is relationship wise. sorry i know this isn't perfessionals type deal but please bare with me i just dont want to feel like i'm the only one ..
#Mental Health Not The Greatest ..
humble mirage
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Hello. @humble mirage please let it be known that after having kids, especially 4. Is life changing. What your husband needs to do is try take some timeoff work to spend a few days at home with you and the kids.
It is very natural that the Mom parent stays home after giving birth, but most tend to fall into a state of being anti-social, falling into depression and such. However a lot of them (after the kid turns 2-3) will be either with your parents or the father's parent or at daycare. It also gives you the mental break that you need by going outside, going to Mommy and Me classes, with the kids. And a chance for you to be very socialable again.
humble mirage
My parents are in another state and i don't work so that's why Im a stay at home parent. I wish he did take the time out for it but he's a workaholic
orchid jay
But if you allow me to. I'm happy to DM you with techniques on how to deal with the overwhelming that you would have.
To deal with the workaholic type of person is to ask and if he doesn't want to take tgat time off. Then you have to put your foot down. Sit him down and calmly tell him.
Most men, after having their first kid will always become workaholics but as a loving wife you need to remind him that he has a family to look after. Even if you are struggling fianacially it doesn't matter. Family will always come first
orchid jay
@humble mirage :) please read above and let me know please
humble mirage
Sure I don't mind at all. This is our 4th child. We have 4 kids together lol. I will take you up on your offer i don't mind trying different ways to calm the overwhelmed feeling i get Everyday 😮