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[atomic abyss]

Hi, I don't usually talk much here, firstly because English isn't my native language and secondly because I'm quite shy, but a problem has arisen...
I don't normally have any issues with my sexuality, but this has confused me... My boyfriend apparently hates his homosexuality now and has asked me for some time off. I think he started having this thought because of a comment his mother made. I really love him, but I don't know whether to trust him or talk to him about the sudden change in his thinking or just walk away. What do you recommend? In advance, thank you!

[hollow flicker]

My advice is to break up, because he will leave you sooner or later, he has changed his mind

[nocturne obsidian]

I would not do that, I would prepare yourself if he does, but be hopeful and supportive of him

[main ermine]

Question: Do you truly love this boy? As in, are you ready to take steps yourself even if he might leave you in the end? If so, the situation is delicate. And you would know what to do yourself best. But here is how I would approach him:

1. Call or speak face to face. Tell him that you have been thinking about him, ask him if he is doing any better. Then ask if he can talk to people regarding his problem. If he can, that's great actually! Problem solved on your end, getting advice from an accepting person will do much better than you can.
2. But if not, remind him that you two are close, that he can trust you, and that you are ready to listen to him. Openly say that you do not want him to feel alone against this. I am proposing this, because you do not know why he changed his mind exactly. Problems can only be solved through communication, and this is the "litmus test" for your relationship. If he can trust you enough to communicate his problem, then you will end up a stronger couple. If not, then your relationship was doomed to begin with.
3. After you hear his problem, and really hear it. Usually, we do not even need solutions in life, but just to feel like someone is listening to us. But after that, you two can come together and try and find solutions. Suggest him to join this server, for example, even. Things will set themselves right, basically, if you can handle step 2.

But... and this is a big but. All of this will require effort, delicate moves and thoughtfulness on your side. And things can go wrong regardless. In which case, you will be hurt more than you would have, if you had stayed quiet. So, this basically requires you to do more than usual. If he is worth it, reach out. If not, then perhaps you should not have been seeking a relationship with him in the first place(which is also valid; I am not trying to shame you here).