#I’m confused

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mossy bough
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I’m confused about both my sexuality and my gender identity

Sexuality part:ever since I came out as bisexual I’ve been feeling like I NEED to be attracted to women or something, because my friends have been making gay jokes toward me and stuff (which I don’t mind) it’s just made me feel like im supposed to feel attracted to the same gender but I don’t.I mean, I do kind of.I like women but im not fully sure if I like women as much as I like men.i might be asexual, because I don’t feel attracted to anyone at all, not men or women.Although, I’m still confused because I can have some small crushes on people I am close with, but they go away within a certain amount of time.What I’ve noticed though is that I only feel attracted to people I have a close bond with, and even then I don’t feel THAT attracted to them.

Gender identity part: I know im a girl, even if I don’t dress like one.I have long hair and stuff and I’m comfortable with it I don’t want to change myself, but I’ve noticed there are moments where I want to dress masculine and want to dress feminine sometimes.I’ve labeled myself as demigirl because I feel like a girl most of the time but sometimes I just want to go as neither guy or girl but I really don’t care what people call me.If someone called me he I wouldn’t get mad, although I doubt anyone would irl because I obviously look like a she.I guess im not very confused about my gender identity as much as I ask about my sexuality im just confused because there’s been moments where one day im obsessed with dressing masculine and then I think about dressing feminine too.

brazen harness
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it’s natural to be confused about your desires and you don’t have to choose a label when thinking about how to respond to those desires. it might be helpful to pick a label that other people have found useful to explain them, but I don’t think that’s always the most important thing.

coarse heath
# mossy bough I’m confused about both my sexuality and my gender identity Sexuality part:eve...

I have some labels that could maybe work for you
1.bisexual with a preference for men/heteroflexible
2.Demisexual/demiromantic
3.agender

  1. Heteroflexibility is a form of a sexual orientation or situational sexual behavior characterized by minimal homosexual activity in an otherwise primarily heterosexual orientation, which may or may not distinguish it from bisexuality. (Wikipedia)

  2. A demisexual person generally tends to develop sexual attraction after they experience secondary sexual attraction – a type of attraction that occurs after development of an emotional bond (wikipedia)

  3. Agender individuals, also known as genderless, gender-free, non-gendered, or ungendered,[33][34] have no gender at all. (Wikipedia)

They way you dress does not equal ur gender so u can identify as whatever you want and dress how u like
U can also be unlabeled, i personally like labels as i understand myself better

mossy bough
# coarse heath I have some labels that could maybe work for you 1.bisexual with a preference f...

I’ve done some research on it and im fairly certain I am demisexual because I’ve only ever been attracted to people after forming a close bond, I can find people cute or pretty but when I think about being romantic with them it’s not something I’d want unless I got close to them.At the same time though I don’t really feel deep attraction to anyone right now, rven those im close with I don’t feel deep sexual or romantic attraction to them but I do feel some.I still think I am bisexual though, because I like men and nonbinary people, I like trans people as well, really I’d like anyone if I had a close relationship with them so I think im still going to label myself as bisexual.It just gets confusing for me and it’s a little stressful but there are some days I’d just like to be unlabeled and some days I like to be

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I’m going to do some more research on everything though

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It’s just the matter of finding what label works best for me

coarse heath
coarse heath
mossy bough
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Or just say queer