My crush swears he’s straight.

[coral crater]

• He kissed the top of my hand twice.
• He bit my arm and shoulders 8 times.
• He has rubbed his feet on my feet without socks on multiple times.
• We’re always making eye contact.
• He always stands as close to me as he can (literally touching me).
• He always jokes about liking me.
• He always teases me in a friendly way, like about my username.
• He always walks up to me first out of anyone.
• He hugs me a lot.
• He always asks things like if I have a girlfriend. If i want a girlfriend. If i go out with my friends. Who im texting. Etc…
• He copies what I do, like if I go sit down, he comes and sits down with me.
• He laid his head on me and tickled me.
• He told someone I loved him.
• He always smiles when I look at him.
• He tries to make me laugh.
• He prefers to do things with me over others he’s known longer.
• He always wants piggy back rides (??? lol)
• He takes funny selfies on my phone without my permission to use it.
• When people tell him that he likes me, he doesn’t deny it.
• He does this stuff in public and literally doesn’t care when people call him gay.
• Adults, random people, all ask him if he has a boyfriend (rather than girlfriend)
• He joked about kissing me quite a few times
• He invited me over to his house, or asked if he could come to mine.
• He'll jump on my back and say "you are my sunshine-"

——

It always feels like there is something between us and it’s so awkward… but he swears he doesn’t like me, and he says that he likes girls not boys.

One day he said “we’re just friends, right?” And I told him yeah, and he got up and walked away.

A few days later…
I told him I was gay and he made a joke that he wouldn’t talk to me anymore but then said nah that he’s good and we’re friends.

So my issue is he denies liking me or being gay but does all this and it’s just like a limbo. What do I do? I rlly love him.

[broken hill]

Hmm... I mean, from what you said, it feels like if there is anything between you two as more than friends, it should come out by itself naturally haha. But in all seriousness, maybe try dropping hints every now and then? Perhaps try making slight moves on him and see how he reacts. It doesn't have to be something big and noticeable, even a faint blush or a slight stammer would be a good result.

[coral crater]

More recently; he got upset with me for only messaging him through video game chats. He told me to stop messaging him unless I was responding to something he sent. He also said that I hadn’t been talking to him as much IRL anymore and I said I’d start doing so more.

He also asked if I hated him for some reason, and then asked if I was mad at him.

[coral crater]

I mean I already smile, blush, stare. Idk

He says “why are you looking at me?” And smiles all the time

And like, when we’re talking he’ll randomly smile and squint his eyes and just put his hands on his hips and look into my eyes

[alpine bolt]

Tbh this sounds like love but maybe it'll need some time for him to figure out some stuff? This just sounds like it will blossom anytime soon

[coral crater]

I mean like, I think I screwed up recently but things have been this way between us for ages and nothing has changed

If anything things might be distancing

[alpine bolt]

If things are distancing maybe it's time to make a move? Like if u distance you will lose him bit if you make a move maybe he will love you back

[coral crater]

He knows my parents think he’s a bad kid, and he knows I disagree with that.

Recently, he was told he couldn’t go to the water park with me because his parents think I’m too old.

That kinda sucks

[coral crater]

How do I make a move tho?

[alpine bolt]

I'm a wrong person to ask that, I never had a bf or a gf expect ones on discord but he asked me first soo...

I mean I can try to help you bc I've watched some series and stuff if you want

[coral crater]

I would be grateful

[alpine bolt]

That truly does suck. Maybe you could try and convince your parents he ain't that bad, like try talking good about him here and there or you could try making comments like: "he did pretty good on the exam" or "he is such a kind person" or " he helped me with ______"

[alpine bolt]

Well if i haven't watched yet you could watch this serie called Heartstopper. It's exactly about the situation you're having rn

Like literally first 3 episodes will help you

[coral crater]

I mean yeah, that doesn’t help with his parents tho

[alpine bolt]

Wait. What's the age difference between u two?

Is it like more than 2 years or smt like that?

[coral crater]

It’s like 2.5 years so sketchy to most people on surface level before they get to know us

We’re good friends though, and lots of adults know we’re friends. We’ve never done anything weird - when I was inviting him to the water park it was just as a friend as well, I was expecting his parents to come so idk

[alpine bolt]

Idk, like it's super sketchy to confess you feelings to a 12-13 yr. I mean it won't be so sketchy in like 1-2 years from now but I don't think that he knows that the way he's acting is kinda "gay" (I'm not trying to be homophobic especially bc we are literally in LGBTQ community). My brother acts like that too and he is his age but my brother for sure ain't gay bc he had 2 gfs already. Although it does sound like he is guy, maybe you could like try to confess your feelings and maybe like give a couple of hints that you don't expect him to love you back. If you two are already distancing there si almost nothing to lose

[coral crater]

He very well knows it’s gay, and even says it’s gay. He does it on purpose knowing that. And he knows I’m gay

[alpine bolt]

I think that he is gay but just doesn't know how to tell you

[coral crater]

Tbh I mean I had a gf too then found out I was gay later

[coral crater]

Which is what I thought cuz no one acts like that for no reason or purely for fun

Especially since he acts that way in private and in public

[alpine bolt]

That's fair enough, I found out I was bi like literally last month even tho I had feeling for both genders for 2 years now

[coral crater]

The thing is he knows people call us boyfriends as a joke, and even asked if we were just friends. He denies liking me “because I’m a boy” and he likes girls not boys.

[alpine bolt]

Okay, you should confess your feelings. Like just go slowly and try to explain the best you can and maybe add that he doesn't need to answer right away or that he doesn't need to like you back. Like just try to not put too much pressure on him but still confess

[alpine bolt]

I don't think that that's true completely. Maybe he is still confused??? Idk

[coral crater]

Yeah no pressure on him that’s chill if he doesn’t like me

I just wanna know ig because the way he acts

[alpine bolt]

Then I think that you should like sit him down and ask seriously. Like have a serious conversation abt it

[coral crater]

Btw i have autism and adhd and ngl

I suck at stuff like that

[alpine bolt]

I believe you. I suck at that stuff bc of my past and bc once I confessed to this one guy that I liked him and he literally just said "Bye" and ran away. I was crying so hard and ever since then I'm afraid to fall in love let along confess my feelings to anybody (mostly men bc I haven't tried with women)

Ik my story sounds childish but it still hurt

[coral crater]

Nah

I feel butthurt like that sometimes

[alpine bolt]

I'll ask my one friend abt how to help u and I'll definitely message u when she replies. I hope everything goes well bro

[coral crater]

Thank youuu

[alpine bolt]

Ofccc, always trying to help

@orchid storm

[orchid storm]

Hello!

[alpine bolt]

So, this is my friend that will hopefully be able to help, she is much better at this stuff then I am

[orchid storm]

I guess I'm the friend😭

Welp hello!

[alpine bolt]

Welcome "friend"!🤣🤣🤣

@coral crater U here?

[orchid storm]

Kill me rn😭🤣 /joke

Anyways

@coral crater when you free to talk just tag/ping me!! (Sorry for being annoying-)

[coral crater]

I’m back

[coral crater]

I’m here!

[alpine bolt]

@orchid storm

[orchid storm]

Hello!

[coral crater]

Hey

[orchid storm]

So I have read almost the whole chat and here is what I think:

I think he might like you, they way he acts is not just best friends or smth, It's more crush material-
Now idk the guy or anything but (from what I'm understanding) he is probably gay, if not gay atleast bi. There is no guy that would kiss the top of you hand, bite you, tease you, not deny having a crush while also asking for piggy back rides is straight-

Now, as I said, I don't know the guy so I can't confirm this is true but I have some .. Ideas?

1. He might be trying to hide it for whatever reason and acting all straight while actually having a crush on you

2. He might not realize he is gay/bi nor that he has a crush on you so he just says he is straight (and nothing about the crush??)

Or

3. He might just be giving you hints?

[coral crater]

Maybe but when I ask if he likes me or whatever he says no so

How am I supposed to move on with that?

[orchid storm]

Oh? Hmm

Now that's hard- wth😭

[orchid storm]

Idk, I would just say, swing it and confess? (That line just made it 100x weirder-)

[coral crater]

Idk

[orchid storm]

It's just that.. You say when you ask him he says no? But when other people say it, he doesn't deny it?

[coral crater]

He doesn’t say yes but he doesn’t deny it

He denies it when I ask tho

[orchid storm]

Wow.. werid

Like I have no clue what to say to this, it's just so.. weird.

[coral crater]

Ikr

That’s what everyone says 😔

[orchid storm]

Yeah cause that's not like "usual". It just doesn't add up..

Dose he have any other like best friends? (apart from you)

[coral crater]

Idk tbh

He got mad at me once and told me that I’m not his only friend

[orchid storm]

Good god this guy is confusing💔

[orchid storm]

Is he still mad at you?

[coral crater]

Idk

[orchid storm]

Idk, I would maybe try and hang out with him, maybe he'll give you some signs or smth?

[coral crater]

Idk I have and he does Yk but denies he’s gay so

[harsh imp]

Try just telling him you love him!

[coral crater]

How do I word that

[harsh imp]

hm… just find a time to talk to him in private and say I have something I need to confess

and then say I love you

because he obviously loves you

he wouldn’t do things like that otherwise

I had a gf and she did kind of the same things before I told her I loved her

[coral crater]

Not I like you?

[harsh imp]

or that

[coral crater]

I think he has a gf rn idk

[harsh imp]

Hm… then first ask him if he is single

[coral crater]

Well he obv did this while he had a gf anyway and he’s still doing it

That doesn’t matter to me ig idk

[coral crater]

But this comes off less hard

[harsh imp]

hm… do you know if he has a gf rn?

[coral crater]

99% sure he does

[harsh imp]

yeah, but sometimes it makes them feel better

[harsh imp]

if you ask then that is kind of a hint, what I would do is ask something like are you single? Are you looking for anyone?

something along the lines of that

[coral crater]

I had the best night of my life with him when we were both single

He asked if I had a gf and then if I wanted one lol

Then asked if I had friends and then asked if I go out with my friends

[harsh imp]

nice!!

[coral crater]

So idk I might just tell him so he knows

[harsh imp]

you should tell him. He obviously likes/loves you

[coral crater]

I mean it’s obvious

But it could be platonic

[harsh imp]

yeah…

[harsh imp]

I would still try!

shoot your shot

I mean if you dont want to then dont but if you do, then do it!

[coral crater]

Yeah ig

[harsh imp]

if you do then can you tell me how it went?

[coral crater]

Yeah!

[harsh imp]

gl!!!!

also do you know when you are going to do this?

[coral crater]

Not rlly

[harsh imp]

oh okay

do it whenever you feel comfortable

[forest inlet]

Omg yes I freaking died watching it gay/pan panics lol

[harsh imp]

wait does your friend you like have discord?

[forest inlet]

Omg love gay stuff like this but I feel bad for him

[coral crater]

no, why?

[harsh imp]

Oh okay, I was going to say, one way you could tell him would be by inviting him to this server and showing him this

[coral crater]

XD heck nah

ive said much more lovely things abt him in other servers too

[harsh imp]

ohh okay lol

[coral crater]

yeah idk

good idea you had tho- if you have anymore im always listening lol

[harsh imp]

okay lol

[harsh imp]

just know, the more you wait, the longer you have to have second though amand/or to change your mind. I would tell him the next time you see him

[coral crater]

I always tell myself that but fail to

[harsh imp]

at some point soon you just have to DO it. Not think, just do

[frail iron]

Just ask your crush at this point

He doin all of that

[coral crater]

I have

He says he’s not gay and he likes women not men

[frail iron]

And he does that😓

[forest inlet]

Can we be friends? Or no srry just wanna make friends I’m really bad at it

Also I’m trans ftm and I’m gay/pan

[coral crater]

exactly

its sad

[frail iron]

Sure

[forest inlet]

Otay can I add u so I can send u my Roblox wanna play tg?

[coral crater]

So I fucked up

He was doing flirty stuff again but I jumped back and away from him cuz it made me uncomfortable in public idk

Maybe I gave him different vibes now

[harsh imp]

😭

[harsh imp]

you need to tell him as soon as possible…

before he takes it the wrong way

[coral crater]

So… we had a spar night tonight at our karate dojo and he wanted me to put his gear on for him when he could do it perfectly fine himself… 💔

And I kinda argued abt it then did it but idk he liked me doing that for some reason

And then he put his feet on me and I backed away cuz Yk it’s in public I didn’t want that taken the wrong way so

[harsh imp]

aww…

just ignore what people would think…

or try too!

[coral crater]

Ig but

Idk I screwed up already

[harsh imp]

you can fix it

The best way now would be like telling him over text if you can or the next time you see him

[coral crater]

Tell him what tho

Also Last time I got a perm (curly hair) and he kept calling me Michael Jackson.. this was a few months ago but.. last week and today he told me I should get a perm again so he’s able to call me Michael Jackson 😭

Oh and he asked me if I can come over to his house on his birthday.. he said he won’t have a party but he just wants to invite me over.

[harsh imp]

that you like him

[harsh imp]

oo nicee

[coral crater]

He told his other friend he’s known longer and better that only I can go to his house not him 😭

[coral crater]

Ig

[harsh imp]

you should

[coral crater]

What should I say?

If I text him exactly what should I say

[harsh imp]

”Hey… I have something to confess. I (like or love) you” or you could do “Hey (name), I have something to confess. I have had a crush on you for a while”

idk something like that

im bad at this lol

[vivid lintel]

I think he just needs time to figure out his sexuality

He might have a crush on your but doesn’t know why

@coral crater

[coral crater]

Oh thank you

[coral crater]

Idk

It’s possible

[vivid lintel]

How old is he

[coral crater]

Uhmmmm

Why

[vivid lintel]

He might still be young and doesn’t know if he’s not straight yet

Ah ok

It’s probably the case where everyone around him knows he’s gay/not straight but he still hasn’t come to terms with it himself

[coral crater]

Idk it’s possible

[vivid lintel]

That’s just my opinion

I had a crush on my friend who said he was straight but clearly showed signs he wasn’t

[coral crater]

What happened

[vivid lintel]

Didn’t really go well

It’s complicated but we don’t really talk anymore

[coral crater]

:(

It’ll probably end the same for me then

[vivid lintel]

Everyone’s situation is different

Based on what I’m reading I think he genuinely loves you back

[coral crater]

He treats me like shit at times tho too

[vivid lintel]

Like how

[coral crater]

Yesterday he dumped bottles of Powerade on my head, and had me get him lunch and drinks and then threw the garbage at me and told me to throw it away rudely. And never apologized or even said thank you.

[vivid lintel]

Oh yikes

[coral crater]

The things he does directly collide with other things he does

[vivid lintel]

Hm

Could it be internalized homophobia. Like he’s taking his anger out on you because he doesn’t want to accept he’s not straight

Also he could have bpd (borderline personality disorder)

[coral crater]

That seems hella accurate

[vivid lintel]

Yeah

[vivid lintel]

He could be undiagnosed and could be taking medication to help it

[coral crater]

I mean you can’t be diagnosed with personality disorders until you’re 18

Afaik

[vivid lintel]

Oh really?

No I don’t think so

[coral crater]

Ah was misinformation I heard

It’s just less commonly diagnosed cuz personality doesn’t solidify until adulthood so

[vivid lintel]

I mean you could bring it up with him

See if he agrees with the symptoms

[coral crater]

He would just tell me to shut the fuck up

[vivid lintel]

Oh 💀

🫂

[coral crater]

Fr

[vivid lintel]

@coral crater also is your username based off the movie

[coral crater]

Yup!

[vivid lintel]

I love that movie ❤️

[coral crater]

My pfp used to be Lou Goosens (the actor that played Elias)