#How to feel better being nonbinary

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placid cipher
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So I’m nonbinary, my parents don’t support (they don’t know) & I don’t know what to do with being nonbinary, I wear fem clothes sometimes & I wear masc clothes sometimes, I feel like I’m trapped between what I want & what I’m supposed to be

ornate sundial
# placid cipher So I’m nonbinary, my parents don’t support (they don’t know) & I don’t know what...

🥹 honey, you... are. It's rough.

You need to work out what 'real' you looks like (and that can vary... I go from presenting as 'alt male' to 'entirely female until intimate' on a day to day basis) and also how much you are prepared to compromise the real authentic you to meet expectations in a cis-het-mono-normative world for an easy life, vs feeling inauthentic.

And then you need to do the work of owning that. And then you need to do the work of setting and enforcing boundares about that - so that if people are 'too weird' (whatever that is for you) then you make changes to the relationship (which might be to end it, or less impactful)

And that is a HELL OF A LOT of work, I'm sorry.

Being enby (especially the 'it's very very different day to day') type enby is A LOT to live authentically in society without a lot of IDONTGIVEASHIT

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sorry, to be clear: when I said "You are" I meant you are "trapped between what I want & what I’m supposed to be"

placid cipher
ornate sundial
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you are welcome 🙂 I am so sorry that as an elder enby(ish)... there isn't any help except get meds for your neurospicy if it works for you, get a diagnosis for the neurospicy if you have it and doing that helps you own it, surround yourself with curious people who are delighed to learn about you as you do and try to cut out those who suck your energy..... Which is all basic bitch shit that I have fucked up a lot

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and... change your situation if it isn't working for you

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which is hard, and brave, and... a lot... AND SO WORTH IT

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But... You are fucking enby. ENBY PRIDE

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As we can see the world as... everyone... which is...mostly awful... But when it's about people you love, it's beautiful, and I identify as enby as I am open to love. All love, all forms