tw: SA

[quick nymph]

||the person that sa’d me was my own friend and i felt so disgusted when it happened. and i still do. she been doing if for months almost everyday and all the time. so finally i told someone- my bf (ex now) but instead of helping and stuff he just got mad at me so i felt horrible and felt like it was my fault. later then i went to my cousins house and she sa’d me in front of someone and they didnt care. i felt so horrible after i didnt want to stay any longer but i had to sleep with her. few months later i “got help” but when i told they didnt get in any punishment (this was at school) and i just got sent to the mental hospital for other things too. im getting nightmares about them 2 and it feels realistic and i feel so disgusting and i dont know what to do.||

[light spindle]

Don't let that shit define you. I am so sorry that you had to go through that. They should be put in the mental hospital for how sick in the head they are. Consent is everything in a relationship, and being mad at you because you asked for help?

That sounds toxic to me. I would suggest keeping a better eye on them, coming from a dude.

All men are bad until they prove they aren't. Remember that.

[quick nymph]

thank you :] i broke up with them a few months ago but im still friends as i feel way to bad ig hes a bit better but he called me a slur bcuz i was scared to talk about my feelings:(

[light spindle]

can you tell me that slur?

And blur it out?

[quick nymph]

uhhm

i cant say it but the n word.

[light spindle]

Gotcha. That is awful. I wouldn't be friends with him

[pallid burrow]

Im so sorry sweetheart :( that sounds genuinely like fucking hell and I am proud of you for being able to talk about it because it is NEVER easy to talk about those things.Those 2 also sound like fucking spawns of Satan? I hope they suck DICK >:( praying on their downfall bro genuinely makes my blood boil.Also that dude getting mad at you for asking for HELP? That genuinely pissed me off reading it.Fuck him I hope he eats a shoe(I’m tryna make u laugh a little) I hate men bro.I hope you are okay

[quick nymph]

the rhing is it made me upset bcuz we dont joke like that-

[light spindle]

No I completely understand. Your feelings are valid. I would suggest steering clear from him. He can live without you.

[quick nymph]

this made me laugh ty :3 but yeai hate him kinda i just to scared to leave people

[light spindle]

Agreed. As a dude it hurts to see other men hurt women. Not ideal.

[quick nymph]

thats true thanks. i tried to break up with me and he texted my best friend (now gf) i was a lair

liar

[pallid burrow]

I know I get that trust me but it’s best to leave people like that trust me it makes life so much better

[light spindle]

Lemon, listen to this person.

[quick nymph]

yeahi understand and thanks again!!

i think i will leave him like officially like block him if he does one more thing cuz im tried of this

[light spindle]

No. Like right now

That motherfucker can eat dirt

[quick nymph]

idk if i have the confidence rn

[light spindle]

That's ok. Take your time 🙂
No but I am here, if you need anything

[pallid burrow]

me when people agree with me

[quick nymph]

thanks ily guys/p

you made me happy ty ty

[light spindle]

No problem!

[light spindle]

Glad to hear it! Always brings a smile to me when people are happy

[quick nymph]

yippee!!

[pallid burrow]

Dw lem I am praying on their downfall(I don’t pray) but I will wish on their downfall

[quick nymph]

OH-😰

[light spindle]

real 😭

[pallid burrow]

I am a hater when it comes to this stuff

[light spindle]

aas you should. i can see why you hate men coming from a guy

[pallid burrow]

Let me just say lemon if I were u I’d be saying some not nice things to them but you are a better person than I

[quick nymph]

i would but im to scared of it ending into something worse and i just want the best for everyone

[pallid burrow]

I HATE men.Well I hate men that aren’t gay and or trans because all the gay and trans men I have met are very sweet

[light spindle]

I'm bi, but there are certain straight men out there that mind their business but they are rarer than diamonds

We need a hero that forces themselves on other men if they SA women...

[quick nymph]

i been ||sa|| by a male before:(

[pallid burrow]

I don’t like straight men cause most of them are just genuine assholes it’s rare to find nice ones

[light spindle]

Fair

[light spindle]

Know what I'll become that hero

Name, age and location?

[quick nymph]

HELP

[light spindle]

No im playing lol

[quick nymph]

BAHHAB

[pallid burrow]

Where does this guy live

[light spindle]

but still, fuck him

[pallid burrow]

Jk

But where

[quick nymph]

florida.

[pallid burrow]

OMG

[quick nymph]

?

[light spindle]

y'know his address?

[pallid burrow]

IM IN FLORIDA

LEMME PULL UP

[quick nymph]

SAME

[pallid burrow]

YAYYAY

[quick nymph]

sadly no💔

[light spindle]

I'm going to flordia on June 28th to go to Manatee River

Im in Ohio

[quick nymph]

alr lets all go to there house

[pallid burrow]

Bro me and my friends can bring matches and gasoline dw

[quick nymph]

ber bet

[light spindle]

No its fine. Im bi, i'll fuck him

[pallid burrow]

Give him a taste of his own medicine

[light spindle]

all holes

mouth, ears, and nose

[pallid burrow]

😭

[light spindle]

no mercy

he aint walking

then we'll burn the house

[quick nymph]

thw girl from the school has been doing that stuff for like jan- aprill and she ||attempted to grape me||

[light spindle]

i can't hurt women, so yeah

[pallid burrow]

I can

[light spindle]

She can but not me

[quick nymph]

and my case with her was close bcuz there was not enough evidence

[pallid burrow]

I love America

[light spindle]

wtf do you mean?

[quick nymph]

i had

[pallid burrow]

don’t u just love America

[quick nymph]

like a case for sa

or something idk what it was called i forgot

to sue her and stuff but they were like “well we cloesed your case of tthe sa bcuz there was bot enough evidence”

sorry for the horrible grammar

[light spindle]

This is America - Childish Gambino

[pallid burrow]

American idiot

[sturdy wolf]

So many cases don't have enough evidence, im sorry it didnt work out

[light spindle]

No it's america

[quick nymph]

yea its oka

and also they did nothingabout it at the school

[sturdy wolf]

That's pretty common too unfortunately

[quick nymph]

just said “she wont have classes” and thats all no pushiment or anything

and they didnt care about my bullies too

im leaving the school tho

[quick nymph]

it shouldnt be:(

[sturdy wolf]

I don't know if there are any crisis lines or such for the topic of ||incest|| (since your cousin was a perpetrator) but you should try to find one specifically for that if you need to

SA can cause so many issues under the surface even if you don't notice them at first

[quick nymph]

i have told my parents and stuff and my cousin family didn’t believe me and said she would never do that

[scenic shore]

Fym "All men are bad until they prove they aren't" that's just extremely rude, and nonsensical

But anyways I wanna rip that shitfucks jaw off of its hinges, I really hope his testicles explode.

[light spindle]

It does make sense.

And also it isn't rude. One ruined it for it all

[scenic shore]

You don't need to be all "ohh one dude is bad that means all men are bad"

[light spindle]

No. You aren't hearing me out.

[scenic shore]

That must be one long ass reply

[light spindle]

Women HAVE to think men (first glance) are a peice of shit.
That's why sometimes they can be like "I have a boyfriend" as a nice way to reject people.

[scenic shore]

"peice of shit"

Also, that's just dismissive, if a dude asked for the time, and she says "I have a boyfriend" that's just rude

[light spindle]

Also... 1 in 6 women in the US have experienced Grape in their lifetime.
1 in 10 men in the US have sexually assaulted a women.

[scenic shore]

What about the men who are victims of sa?

[light spindle]

1 in 71 men

[scenic shore]

By your logic, they get to think all women are "peices of shit"

[light spindle]

89% of SAs of men are by prisoners.

[scenic shore]

Did you pull that out of your ass?

[light spindle]

research it.

you uneducated fr

[scenic shore]

Still doesn't make it any less concerning

[light spindle]

It is rare as hell

VERY rare compared to women SA

[scenic shore]

Your point being..?

[light spindle]

It is ok for women to be not trusting of men...

All men are guilty until proven innocent

(Coming from a guy)

[scenic shore]

By that logic, it is okay for men to not be trusting of women

[scenic shore]

And all women are guilty until proven innocent

By your logic

[light spindle]

Men are naturally stronger than women, also Women are very near with no rights since trump has been elected (in the US)

So the grape rates will go up by a ton...

[scenic shore]

Dude, are you saying that men can "push the women off" if they get sa'd?

Because it sure sounds like it.

[light spindle]

I'm saying Naturally, not all the time. If a woman trains to be strong, then that's a different story. But naturally, by nature. Men are stronger.

[light spindle]

Anyone can push off an SA, but sometimes one is too strong

[scenic shore]

That has nothing to do with this

[scenic shore]

Bullshit, it's when they are caught off guard, in a state of panic, and pinned to the ground. (Usually)

[light spindle]

Yeah no, me just talking to you makes me believe you are one of those people to do this tbh

[scenic shore]

How? I'm not supporting the grape on either sexes?

[light spindle]

You are literally trying to fight men's reputation when it isn't good. Just accept that.

[scenic shore]

Speak English

[light spindle]

It is VERY common for men to be grapists

[scenic shore]

And just as common for women

[light spindle]

No it is not, by stats.

[scenic shore]

I'm not denying that men can commit sa

[light spindle]

1 in 71 men are graped by women
1 in 6 women are graped by men

[scenic shore]

Shut up and accept that they are both disgusting

[scenic shore]

That doesn't make any difference. It's still assault, it doesn't not matter if there are lower rates

[light spindle]

Grape is disgusting, but men can't get mad at the fact that women expect men to be all bad until they see their true colors

[scenic shore]

You wanna know what it's called?

Sexism

[light spindle]

It isn't! It is self-awareness

[scenic shore]

It's being overly cautious

[light spindle]

Is there anything wrong with that?

[scenic shore]

You can't just assume everyone is out to get you, it's unreasonable

[light spindle]

Ok but what if someone is out to get you?

Better safe than sorry

@pallid burrow am I right on this? You are a women so I would assume you know more than both of us.

[scenic shore]

Then I'll just be wary

[light spindle]

define wary

[scenic shore]

Do you deadass need me to define a simple word?

[light spindle]

Nah not really...

[scenic shore]

Wary means just cautious

[light spindle]

But still... don't get pissed off with women when they reject you because they are not trusting.

[scenic shore]

Not being paranoid, but being aware

[scenic shore]

I don't?

[light spindle]

You obviously seem like it...

Not all men are bad, yes. But that is what women have to think when going through this. They have to see a man's true colors

[scenic shore]

Do you really hate yourself this much?

[light spindle]

Ted Bundy for example. Was said to be charming and good looking. Most of his murder victims were women, because they fell for him to hook up. Nobody believed he was a murderer until they saw heads.

[scenic shore]

That has nothing to do with SA

[light spindle]

I am embarrased of men

[scenic shore]

Yourself*

[light spindle]

I am a guy, yes but I can see why men are bad (first glance)

[scenic shore]

Dude, just accept people for who they are, and don't treat them like shit just because another dude was bad

[light spindle]

Never said that...

First glance, right?

[scenic shore]

You imply it

[light spindle]

You have to be aware that men can be grapists

[scenic shore]

I know, I'm not stupid

But, so can women

It's not exclusive to one sex

[light spindle]

It is more common so you have to be more aware!

[scenic shore]

Wtf? You have to be equally aware! You are acting like the assaulted men are nothing!

[light spindle]

It's like "A meteor can hit us at any time! Let's build rocketships to break them so we don't die!"

[light spindle]

You have to plan for the worst

[scenic shore]

And getting assaulted by a woman is part of the worst

[light spindle]

First glance you are gonna have to assume they are a peice of shit. This applies to all people

[scenic shore]

You really are a hateful person

[light spindle]

You are ignorant

[light spindle]

And no I am not, people actually say I am kind.

[scenic shore]

Treat people like people. Welcome them with open arms unless you know they have done something

[scenic shore]

People as in the bottles in the shower

[light spindle]

No. That's not how the world works. The world is such a horrible place.

[light spindle]

That was rude

[scenic shore]

Self awareness

[scenic shore]

So try to change it! Even if it's not much, it's still something!

[light spindle]

Why should I when I get rocks thrown at me everyday wherever I go because I am an "easy target"?

[scenic shore]

That's because you only see the bad side

[light spindle]

Why should I when I am told to kill myself every day because I slip up once?

Why should I when I have been touched in that square before?

[scenic shore]

You shouldn't. Throw rocks back. Treat others how they treat you

[light spindle]

You are a really hateful person with that logic

[scenic shore]

Its literally the Golden rule of goddamn kindergarten. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Even if it means being rude back

[light spindle]

Why should I because when I helped one time I was arrested?

[scenic shore]

This isn't your vent post

Make your own

[light spindle]

I'm giving out points to why I see the world like this

Be open-minded

You deeply triggered me.

[scenic shore]

I am, did you go through kindergarten? You should know the Golden rule is treat others how you want to be treated! Even. If. It. Means. Being. Rude. Back!

[scenic shore]

When?

[light spindle]

Like you give a damn.

[scenic shore]

Tell me

[light spindle]

Why should I?

So you can learn? Bullshit

[light spindle]

This part triggered me

[light spindle]

This hurt me

[scenic shore]

Okay, that's my bad, I went too far

I apologize

[light spindle]

And I apologize for snapping

I just lost my cool. That's all

[scenic shore]

Alright

Fair

[light spindle]

this has been on the top of the forum for a while now 😂

[scenic shore]

Let's stop arguing I'm getting tired

[light spindle]

same

[scenic shore]

You're kinda chill now that I'm not all oopy goopy

[light spindle]

I can be

I just sometimes match energy

[scenic shore]

Yeah, mb

[light spindle]

yeah yg. let's just admit that we have to be aware for the worst

applies with all genders

[scenic shore]

Whether it's men or women

[quick nymph]

why sre we fighting:(

[pallid burrow]

I mean I wouldn’t just willingly trust a man unless he’s proven to me that he’s trust worthy.Its not sexism as the other guy said it’s common sense not to trust everyone you see so easily and be aware of your surroundings