#Coming out to friends

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ionic quail
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I want to come out to my friends as gay, but there's one major problem:
I cannot take ANYTHING they say seriously.

TW: SH
Our friend group is centered entirely around comedy, and most of our discussions are back and forth jokes that are an attempt to make other people laugh. I haven't really had a serious conversation with anyone, and I feel uncertain about their perception/opinion of LGBTQ+ people. They're not bad people, but I'm really scared of becoming more distant to them. I already feel partially alien and am trying to suppress that anxiety, but if I come out and they talk to me less, I'm scared of what I'll do. I went through a really bad self-harm phase not long ago and have kind of gotten out of it to the point where I'm not doing it, but it's still an instinct that I'll probably act upon.
I am fully conscious of my mental problems but I find it so difficult to actually fix them.

Sorry for the rant, just need some advice on how to maybe start a convo or maybe just gauge their opinions.
thx

true nest
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If you want to come out to them then the best thing to do is figure out how they feel about queer people (maybe bring up a queer celebrity, or something about the queer community that’s distant enough from you) if they are deemed safe (idk how else to phrase it 😭) then I recommend telling them one at a time or just tell them in smaller groups (like 3 at a time, it depends)
Hope this helps!

ionic quail
round jasper
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I didn’t make it a big deal, just something small

tame granite
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those are good advices, the best is not to make it look like a big thing. It's like saying "Oh, btw, I prefer tomatoes than mushrooms"

Keep it simple 🙂