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For context: My friend (let’s call them L) and I have known each other for almost 3 years and we are best friends. Our other friend (G) has known us for not even 1 year but we all clicked immediately.
Today L and G are having a sleepover and they texted me saying that they started dating. I’m happy for them, I really am, but I really don’t want them to be dating. It’s good that they found happiness in each other but I don’t know how to think. I feel like I’m going to be left out in the friend group and that our relationships are going to change. I’m already the 3rd wheel in multiple trios but I’m fine with those. This one just feels deeper because I was the one that had them meet. They’ve made the fact that they are dating now their whole personality for the past few hours and have even sent a video of them kissing.
I don’t want them to date. I know this sounds selfish but I’m just really scared. I love them both to bits and I want them to be happy, but I don’t want them to leave me. I’ve communicated with them about this and they said that they aren’t going to leave me and they didn’t mean to make me uncomfortable. They don’t know that I don’t want them to date. I feel like crap and I have been nonstop crying for hours. I have some attachment issues and I am really sensitive to changes with friendships.
I am just asking for some advice from people who have no bias for anyone in this situation. Sorry if this is more of an “Am I the a**hole” thing😅
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