Need some advice on my life that has affected my mental state over time. | Pridecord | Page 1

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 9:18 AM

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Guten Morgen/Guter Abend. Hi, fair warning i tend to greet people in different languages. It's just who i am.

But there's a huge issue i have in my life, that mostly revolves around who i am as a person. It's not my sexuality but more so my Personality. To keep this really short, I'm a people pleaser and a helper.

I will literally go out of my way to help people even if it puts my OWN life at risk. It's gotten so bad to the point i've gotten into legal issues with my Ex and their family because we did something (Originally my idea) to help them out. My parents see this as a HUGE issue because i'm a Junior in high school now, and apparently to them. This is the time i'm supposed to be the most selfish EVER, but to me i don't let that fly at all. I quite literally refuse to be selfish to anybody.

I really just want someone's advice or point of view on this, cause after thinking about all this for about a week, i had a break down. I don't know what i should do, i don't know if i should continue as i am now: Helping everyone around me while risking myself so i don't end up like my father. Or: take my parents advice and just turn into the biggest A-Hole yet.

woeful lagoon Jun 19, 2025, 9:22 AM

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i know it might be really difficult to do this, but next time you get an urge to help someone out, but realise it might hurt yourself in the process, dont do it. I know its going to be hard, but you can start with small things, like saying no to doing extra work if your already doing a lot

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im sorry if this doesnt help but it cant hurt to try

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 9:24 AM

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i think i should've been more specific on what i'm helping people with..

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May i specify?

woeful lagoon Jun 19, 2025, 9:24 AM

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yes ofc

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 9:26 AM

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Alright thank you, SO. What i help others out with is anything that falls into the category of Relationships, Mental issues, Emotional issues, Physical (mandatory.), Personal issues, venting, advice, and finally comfort.

woeful lagoon Jun 19, 2025, 9:27 AM

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okay let me think for a sec sorry

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 9:27 AM

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No worries, take your time.

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Besides it's just me you gotta worry about-

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i think.

woeful lagoon Jun 19, 2025, 9:30 AM

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okay im really really sorry but i need to go do smth real quick but ill be back in like 5 minutes

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sorry again

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 9:30 AM

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No no don't apologize- You are all good

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just stay safe!

woeful lagoon Jun 19, 2025, 9:31 AM

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okay so it ended up being like 1 minute lol

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but im back!

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okay so with stuff relating to helping people with mental health, sometimes its best to get them to talk to a professional instead of dealing with it all by yourself

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with emotional stuff id say the same

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for physical stuff can you be more specific sorry?

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 9:35 AM

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woeful lagoon for physical stuff can you be more specific sorry?

Physical for me tends to be wounds, sleeping issues, or anything on the lines of violence from said person.

woeful lagoon Jun 19, 2025, 9:35 AM

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okay thx

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for most of these id actually say the same, tell a medical professional (mental or physical) abt the problem and let them handle it. some advice i was given (since i do the same thing) is to get more people to help you out. doing it all yourself is stressful so having people to help you is always good

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and if all that doesn't work, sometimes you do have to be a little bit selfish

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sorry if all that doesn't make sense..

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 9:39 AM

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woeful lagoon for most of these id actually say the same, tell a medical professional (mental ...

i tend to forego, seeking help from others such as medical professionals because i have a history of them refusing me help and telling me to "Do it myself"

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So i don't really trust anyone in that field.

woeful lagoon Jun 19, 2025, 9:40 AM

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ok that makes sense

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there are good ones out there but if you dont trust them then thats fine

arctic marlin Jun 19, 2025, 9:42 AM

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hey there Lance(sorry if this the wrong name I can’t read anything rn 😭). I read your messages, and my honest advice is to try not to help people as much, just politely deny. I get how you feel, I always tried to help my friends with their emotions because I loved doing it, but then it got to a point to where I couldn’t help them and I was stressing out over it and getting depressed to the point of almost (trigger warning) || self harming and killing myself ||. But I’ve refrained from doing it as often and I’ve been depressed less, and those thoughts went away. so it may just be best to refrain from helping with mental issues for people as much.

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 9:46 AM

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arctic marlin hey there Lance(sorry if this the wrong name I can’t read anything rn 😭). I rea...

It's Lance, dw you're all good.

arctic marlin Jun 19, 2025, 9:47 AM

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I had to edit it from Vance to Lance 😭

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 9:48 AM

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Pfft-

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but hey thanks for advice, i'll TRY to follow it.

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but knowing me, i'll take it. Try it, if it doesn't work i'll drop it entirely.

arctic marlin Jun 19, 2025, 9:58 AM

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Just keep trying even if it feels like it doesn’t work

frigid junco Jun 19, 2025, 9:59 AM

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Hi guys

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 10:13 AM

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Greetings-

woeful lagoon Jun 19, 2025, 10:42 AM

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feeling any better?

little plinth Jun 19, 2025, 10:58 AM

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relatively yea-

#Need some advice on my life that has affected my mental state over time.