My bestie and his boyfriend want me to date them so that I'm in a polyamous relationship with them but I haven't said yes or no because i love them but don't know how to tell my mom
#How do I come out to my mom?
cedar skiff
hollow quartz
How do you think she would take it and is she religious? Usually that's what helps me come out to people 👀 which I know probably shouldn't be a factor, cuz it is what it is, but I think that if you tell her now, you'll have less anxiety about it and can be more open.
lime umbra
The first thing you should consider is how your mother would most likely react to you coming out. More specifically, you should figure out her views on LGBTQ+. Try starting a conversation about some LGBTQ+ related topic and see how she responds. If her response is mostly positive, and she doesn't seem to have anything against it, then you're probably good to tell her. But if she reacts negatively, then it's probably best that you don't come out to her at this time, especially if you are dependent on her in any capacity. Always ensure that safety is your top priority and do not come out to someone who you think could react negatively to it.
cedar skiff
@hollow quartz no she isn't religious
@lime umbra she is okay with the LGBTQ+ community
lime umbra
Then you are safe coming out to her. There are many ways you can do this. Writing a letter, just telling her directly, or mentioning it indirectly by dropping subtle hints and see if she figures it out. Does your mom know the people you're trying to date? If not, you should probably introduce them to her before telling her that you're dating them.
cedar skiff
But they love in Texas I'm in az
lime umbra
So this is a long distance relationship? If so, then think about what your mom thinks of you hanging out with people online. If she generally seems ok with it, then you should probably be ok telling her that it's a long distance relationship.