#Life changes/highschool advice

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odd void
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This obviously isn’t as serious as other peoples but my live lately has genuinely been the dullest thing or made me wanna explode. I start high school this upcoming school year, my mom wants me to take honors classes, I have Volleyball tryouts , and I’m in intermediate choir.
I can’t help but doubt myself in all of this, even though I’ve put in effort to be in it. What if i’m not good enough to be in honors English? I mean I barely read and the summer reading homework is 500 freaking pages.
What if i’m bad in choir? Am I a good enough note taker to be in Honors U.S. history? Can I keep my grades up?
There’s also a sudden expectation for me to get myself to get to school everyday on time next year. There’s just so much new.
People keep asking me if i’m exited or nervous for high school, if i’m happy. And I genuinely don’t know how to reply anymore.

Nowadays it’s always about how I look so much older, how mature I am, how I act like an adult, how I don’t smile, how i’m not happy. But it can never be anything more than ‘just anxiety’ for anyone in my life. Even though it is so much worse.

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Any advice about highschool or anything general to this would be appreciated.

pale zodiac
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I guess the most I can say, is aim for the best, but don’t be discouraged if you don’t get it. Frankly, there’s always someone better than you, someone smarter than you, stronger than you, and that is what it is. I suppose it’s a bit different when you have expectations riding on you but at the end of the day, school is for YOU, not parents or anyone else, YOU. As long as you’re satisfied, that’s all that matters. So yeah, there’s nothing wrong with aiming to be the best, in fact it’s good, but you shouldn’t let it become more important than your health and wellbeing, because that is and will always be what matters most.

odd void
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That’s true, but just with the way my brain is wired and how my family is (particularly my mom) it’s always about reaching the expectation and above. Health, mental and physical not usually considered. Unless physically it affects me playing volleyball which luckily it hasn’t.

I’m really trying to make it for me, even though it kinda seems punitive to.

pale zodiac
odd void
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Honestly it has but again, it’s not like anybody has noticed.

pale zodiac
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Unless you make your life monster energy or red bull

odd void
pale zodiac
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Oh dear…

odd void
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I usually drink 200 mg of caffeine a day. Today I accidentally had 300+ because I fricked up lmao

pale zodiac
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I’d say one thing that’s really important is making sure you have a hobby, friends, some way of relief.

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I guess you do a sport so that may already be that thing.

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To be honest, you’ll eventually get used to it, one way or another. Still it’s best to establish healthy habits now, or things will just get worse down the road. I wish I’d knew that

odd void
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Yeah, thanks for the advice

pale zodiac
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Of course, I hope your high school experience can be a good one

odd void
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Thank you

pale zodiac
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Mhm!

shy grove
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when i made the transiton from middle school to high school i was also very nervous. but to be honest, it was actually not as bad as i expected it to be. main thing, is just try to focus on your work. while in class, do your school work. dont let your friends/peers distract you. also, alot of the friends you made from middle school wont remain your friend in highschool. it doesnt necessarily have to be messy, but people change as they get older, and fit into different groups then they did previously. also, when making new friends, BE VERY CAREFUL ABOUT THIS. my biggest mistake freshmen year (year 9) was getting involed with the wrong people. so, like i said, focus on your schoolwork. get what needs to be done first, that is the purpose of school. dont be afraid to ask your teachers questions, it is their job to help you.