TW: abandonment, sh | Pridecord | Page 1

plain swan Jun 16, 2025, 12:11 AM

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Ive been ghosted and terrified of it happening again, so I am usually rlly clingy, but sometimes it feels suffocating to the point where I want to ||relapse||. I just feel rlly stuck rn and idk what to do.

warped thunder Jun 16, 2025, 12:18 AM

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I know it might not help but have you tried telling someone you know or a therapist? Sometimes it's nice having someone you know comfort you in times like these

plain swan Jun 16, 2025, 12:25 AM

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I have a therapist but im getting a new one. I've been so suffocated with trying to make sure that my friends don't leave to the point where ive been neglecting my mental health and hygiene

dapper tiger Jun 16, 2025, 2:23 AM

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plain swan I have a therapist but im getting a new one. I've been so suffocated with trying...

What do you mean when you say preventing your friends from leaving. Like, do you feel that the connection is being strained, or is it more, you’re worried that if your aren’t the exact person they want you to be, that they’ll leave you?

plain swan Jun 16, 2025, 2:24 AM

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Im more of the type of person to make sure I fit the mold of what my friends want so they don't get bored of me

dapper tiger Jun 16, 2025, 2:31 AM

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I guess it’s worth saying that friends aren’t people who expect you to be a certain way, they’re people who like you for who you are. If the former is true, I’d say get new friends. On the other hand, it’s worth asking if you have any proof from your friends that they wouldn’t be happy if you didn’t fit this mold. Have you ever been more yourself around them in the past?

plain swan Jun 16, 2025, 2:38 AM

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I dont have a real personality anymore. Its all built on who ive known over the years

dapper tiger Jun 16, 2025, 2:41 AM

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Really, there isn’t a single way you want to act, or a certain thing you want to do? Any interest you, have, nothing?

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I guess just do what you want to do, not what others want to do. Maybe you don’t have much of a thought on such things now, but so long as you keep your mind and body open and willing to being what you want, you will develop interests, your own personality, etc.

plain swan Jun 16, 2025, 2:44 AM

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Im learning to explore what I really like and not what others like. Thanks a lot

dapper tiger Jun 16, 2025, 2:50 AM

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I’m glad to hear that. I understand there can be the desire to please others, but to yourself, you should matter most. I’m glad I could help and hope that your friends will continue to like you regardless

plain swan Jun 16, 2025, 2:58 AM

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I wish the same with you.

#TW: abandonment, sh