ill start with me being confused. i tell people im pan but honestly the way i feel emotions is weird. like i say im pan and lithromantic but i dont really think thats the case, it doesnt feel right. i have a bf right now (im insanely attracted to trans guys eheheh) but its only been a few days so i cant say for sure that im still gonna like him later on. i want to bc i love him sm right now. anyways thats not really the point. idk if what im feeling is how other lithromantic pans feel or if im abro although thats not really what im describing is it. i just dont really know whats going on with me. also my gender is going through it too. ive gone through the entire cycle of she/her to they/them. i like when people use they/them pronouns for me but if its all the time it seems a bit excessive and i get tired of it. she/her seems so normal for me since thats what everyones called me my whole life but it feels weird to have so much femininity in my pronouns. she/they is a nice balance, but idk how to balance it between people. one of my friends strictly uses they/them pronouns since it makes them happy when others do that for them and they want to make me happy too. i havent come out to most of my friends besides like 3 or 4 so im mostly still she/her. people are also starting to ask me more which makes me happy bc maybe that means i look more androgynous?? so i think they mostly all know now that i think about it. but i also dont know how to have that convo with my friends. like do i just go, "use she/her most of the time but sprinkle in they/them sometimes too and when you talk about me when im not there refer to me as they/them" that seems weird IDK HELP.
as for the second thing, ive come out to my mom twice. once telling her im gay (not anymore) and one telling her im non binary which i think she forgot about since she still uses she/her pronouns on me. she says shes supportive but gets mad at me when i want to wear "boy clothes" and look more masc WHAT DO I DO
#idk what to do help
solid estuary
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prisma quail
i can't rly help with the second part, but frayromantic/sexual maybe? it's where you are attracted to smn initially, but you lose feelings later (if i understand what you're saying correctly)
solid estuary
i can't rly help with the second part, but frayromantic/sexual maybe? it's where...
maybe actually!! now that im really thinking about it through a fray lens, it could be that. i usually stop liking someone after i get close enough to them or if i think they like me back. tysm im gonna think about this