If I'm reading this correctly the question is: 'If I present myself as a woman while feeling male, would this be negative in romantic situations, making it better if I masked instead of publicly becoming trans' correct?
#Sorry if this is not a big deal
muted lava
No problem at all. I will make an attempt at answering coherently. But i have been known to be a bit chaotic
Gender is first and foremost a social construct. Hence (at least to me) it consist mostly of how others percieve you. I consider myself male. But not because I have an inherent emotion that tells me i am. Everyone in my life has told me that I am this. Hence, i am that. If that does not correspond with my personal preference i will feel troubled. However, in this situation, i lean towards the theory of ftm. I think you are questioning this because you are afraid of what others may percieve you as. I hope I'm not being rude. Besides this, plenty of gay men, can, and are attracted to ftm people. However, I do understand the emotion. Its a valid response. I think if you feel uncomfortable with pronouns, and are interested in surgery, I think you should go for it. Good luck! And i wish you good healty.
tardy trout
if a gay man is supporting of his own community, then he would support your gender identity. be with a partner who supports you for who you are if you can ❤️
flint thistle
Does your family try to enforce traditional "gender roles"? Have you tried doing things such as dressing more masculine, and if so, has your family shown any opposition to it? Also do you know your family's views on LGBTQ+ related issues?
tardy trout
being in a safe environment is a good priority to have
flint thistle
if a gay man is supporting of his own community, then he would support your gend...
exactly. I'm AMAB and gay, and I've experienced attraction towards trans men a few times before. Wouldn't completely rule out the idea of a relationship with a trans man either.
Was that transphobia inherited from your parents?
Since I know many parents with more traditional lifestyle beliefs tend to try to force all their beliefs and views on their children a lot more, including religion, politics, and other societal views
tardy trout
that's a good point, they may have said something like "oh, only girls have this" or "only boys have that"
flint thistle
Just remember that you have a mind of your own. You do not have to agree with all the views your parents have and you also don't have to pass down all of their family traditions either. I would recommend not defying them too much, especially if you are financially dependent on them.
tardy trout
my parents are also kinda uneducated on this stuff, but i educated myself a bit so i know what to look out for
like putting things into gendered categories ig
i noticed that's what some people like to do. breaking down those "boxes" can help a lot
flint thistle
My parents are very liberal and open-minded. I also have autism and ADHD and they have been very supportive. And I recently told them that I was gay and they have been very supportive and still see me as the same person, which is nice.
When I was younger, I used to play dolls, both with female friends, and with my younger sister. My parents had no problem with it.
My sister also liked to play with toy cars when she was younger, and many of her toys were hand-me-downs (as in my old toys)
tardy trout
more parents should be like that fr :)
maybe you can make some better memories in the channels here
plenty of people here will accept you for who you are ❤️
flint thistle
My parents are very liberal and open-minded. I also have autism and ADHD and the...
also, I'm 20 now and I still live with my parents and are fully dependent on them. I'm unemployed and currently in college.
tardy trout
the community here supports you for being trans, and i'm very sure of it 🏳️⚧️
from what i've seen, people and the staff are welcoming, and anything rude is called out quickly
flint thistle
pretty much what I've seen so far as well
tardy trout
as far as i understand, transition regret is pretty low, and people in this community would likely support you as well
even if you regret it
no problem ❤️
flint thistle
no problem