#Just venting

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teal bane
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I love my boyfriend. He's an amazing person, gentle, lovely, even spoiling me when i don't deserve it. But he's so fucking needy. I don't want to be with him 24/7, i barely can stand myself. He always wants to stay there, and i want my space.

I don't like playing games with him. He always get mad, ragequits, yells at me if i do something wrong. I hate being around him at that times, he makes my head hurt.

He makes me feel awful when i tell him i want my own space. He criticizes me with his friends and sends screenshots of our conversations. He has a lot of friends and i have none, so i can't even tell anyone what am i going through.

I don't like being around our friends, they already know about all our problems and it feels... wrong. Also, he wants to pressure me to have sex with him, always insinuating things and.. IDK. He's older than me, 17-20.

I just feel like a bitch if i deny him something, i don't want to sent photos of my privates to him, i've seen how he presumes to have a lot from other girls (and showed me a few) I'm scared that if i end things with him, he could send those pictures to someone else.

pliant jackal
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Hey, I know you literally just posted this, but I don't think any of that qualifies as a "lovely amazing person", and Im super sorry to drop that on you, but its honestly true.

I don't know much of what else to say, other than that it sounds very toxic, and I hope that you can realize that. Just because someone seems lovely, just because someone spoils you, doesn't mean theyre a good person deserving of your love.

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I've been in those kinds of relationships and trust me you dont want them

dusty vale
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There are so many red flags in this. Not going to lie, he doesn’t sound like he’s the best for you

pliant jackal
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also yeah dont send him anything, 17 and 20 is okay romantically, 17 and 20 with those kinds of red flags and asking for pics? NOT good, hell not even legal

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I really sincerely hope that you can realize, perhaps even come to terms with it, cause it's hard, if you want to talk more about it, im here and I promise i'll try my best to explain from an outside perspective, which is honestly probably needed in this situation

little dirge
pliant jackal
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said much better than i could if i tried

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best thing I can reccomend is maybe do some reflection, put it into words, then send it to a friend for an outside perspective.

teal bane
pliant jackal
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literally textbook definition

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hes using emotions to take advantage of you, and thats NOT OKAY.

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If you ever feel small in a relationship, it isnt a relationship you want to be in.

Best way i can describe it is that love is a two way street.
if ony one end of traffic is flowing? its not right for you.

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Like i said, compile some stuff, maybe talk to a friend. If you dont have a friend? Guess what, boom, im a friend now, i can go over each point you bring up and explain if its
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
(my fav game)

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really hope all this helps

little dirge
pliant jackal
little dirge
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terse stone
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Dude just dump him

pliant jackal
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and thats certainly a way to put it, respect it as well lol

little dirge
pliant jackal
terse stone
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I’m just really direct and to the point with everything

pliant jackal
terse stone
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🤷

dusty vale
little dirge
pliant jackal
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nyeheheehhehe\

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okay im not chatting in here so tehy can read the advice

teal bane
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Sorry to re activate this again - I checked my bf's phone, and he has a few.. conversations critizising Pride month and calling us a bunch of ill people?? IDK, i feel even more grossed out now.

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i tried to talk about what you said yesterday, but he started crying and i budged

little dirge