#Maybe I'm overthinking

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stiff imp
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So, I've came out as trans to my parents a few years ago, started therapy last year and know that they know and are supportive. But back then I told them that I was fine with them still calling me by my deadname and he/him pronouns. However, nowadays I've been thinking about telling them that I'd like them to call me by my prefered name and pronouns.
It just feels weird to me to ask it now. Am I overthinking it? Perhaps

crude sail
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No u aren't

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U aren't overthinking it I think that's perfectly fine to feel weird about. It's a new name, I'm assuming you aren't used to being referred by it

stiff imp
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well, actually everyone of my close friends and also the ppl online refer to me with that name

crude sail
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Maybe just cuz it's ur parents?

stiff imp
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yeh probably

crude sail
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Like I know it felt weird talking with my parents about liking girls but with my friends it was fine yknow

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Like these are the people that raised u right it's just like. Different. Idk

stiff imp
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it was difficult for me to come out to them

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yeahhh

crude sail
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Id say just tell em. They've supported u this far, right?

elfin flicker
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Agreed, I think there is a way to approach the conversation. I think being honest with them, telling them this is your identity now and you were wondering how they would feel about calling you by your chosen name.

It can be a conversation, it can take time, there will be slip ups but it sounds like they have been supportive so far.

stiff imp
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yeh, I should probably rlly just tell them straight up. Thx for your input guys <3

celest cedar
stiff imp