#Bisexual Demi girl

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cold stream
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I really want to express myself, as bisexual (rather biromantic) possibly pansexual, and a demi girl. But my parents are religious, I am too, but I believe that people should be able to love without getting judged by it? I mean, I can't control how I feel, but I really just be done with hiding, I feel trapped. One time I brought up the Bisexual flag colors, and my mom said "Queer people ruined all the colors", like my heart dropped.. And I just have a feeling they wouldn't accept it, I mean, me and my parents usually have a somewhat good relationship, but I want it to be over AT LEAST before pride month ends, but like how would I bring it up? I feel like if I told them, I would ruin myself, like they wouldn't see me the same just because of a complicated feeling. Also I have no where to go if they found out

rugged oriole
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Depends on your relationship with your parents, however, if you are unsure due to religion you may like to wait until you reach financial independance to ensure your future won't be economically damaged by a bad scenario. Notwithstanding I think most parents won't place religion over their childrens feeling unless they are really conservative. In case you are minor, you should also ensure your country does not support (has illegalized) conversion camps. Please remember your mental stability and physical health should be a priority for you.

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About your feelings, I totally understand your frustration. Its scary to think maybe others will think something bad about you just for something that does not make any damage to anyone, however most people do not really hate but are scared about something they don't know about and have only heard on the news or on rumours. As I suggested in some other post, a few friends could successfully get more information by making up a fake friend with their same orientation.

cold stream
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Thanks so much for the advise, I'll try that. Also if you have an answer, would it be bad to attempt to come out when I'm in a really bad mental state?

rugged oriole
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You should be ready to face any reply or question, and mental stability is always first.

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I don't know your parents, so I cannot be the one telling you how they face new situations, however most religious parents I saw tend to do it with a false anger (they are scared), what will prob lead you to a worse mental stability

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Remember you should always do whatever you feel most comfortable with, always taking care of your mental stability and physical health

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If you have some close friend, unrelated to your parents that could support you, that could probably help you

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(unrelated to your parents = does not know your parents personally, not required but I think it may help you feel better when talking)