Came out or no?

[twilit scaffold]

Hi! I want to came out to my mom bc im gay and she dont know. I have the best friend that she is trans and bi and my mom know this but sometimes makes Jokes about being trans bc she think that is joke but not. My mom is liberal and leftist. And how to came out when its good idea?

[silk atlas]

Hey! First off, it’s great that you’re thinking this through—coming out is a big step, and it’s important to feel ready. Since your mom is liberal and already knows your best friend is trans and bi, there’s a good chance she’ll be supportive of you too. But her jokes might mean she doesn’t fully understand how serious or personal this stuff is.

One idea is to start by gently calling out those jokes—like, “Hey, I know you’re joking, but that kind of thing can really hurt people, even if you don’t mean it badly.” That can help open her mind a little before you come out.

There’s no perfect time to come out, but choose a moment when you’re both calm and not distracted. You could say something like, “I wanted to tell you something important about me—I’m gay.” Keep it simple and honest. Be ready for a mix of emotions; even supportive people can need a minute to adjust.

No matter how it goes, you’re valid and brave for being yourself. You deserve love and respect, always.

[twilit scaffold]

Thank you❤️

And about that jokes i tried to learn my mom that being trans is not the sexuality but identification (my english is bad and sometimes I need use words that are understandable to me) and being bi is sexuality so thats normal to being trans and bi

But she still sometimes make that jokes like thats not wrong with that

[twilit scaffold]

and my brother say

in Fire fighters building

with a lot of friends say

Im gay

to all people i know and not else

and to my enemies

and on school trip was same situation

and on school trip my brother ask me im gay?

and i said no my firends say that too and one girl joined and say us look like a gay and next girl (probably lesbian) joined to that when that girl who join first ask me I look like a gay and that probably lesbian say yes

and when my youngest brother say about it what midle brother say my parents was very very angry

to him and my brother got worse situation bc say my and parents enemy was there

and say that near Her

and i haved crush on her brother

and i writed to him whats his sexuality

and he said probably straight

later he was very angry bc i dont wanted say who im am

bc i writed on new alt tiktok account