#Coming out advice?

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tired garnet
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I need help. I don't plan on coming out to my parents for a little, because I feel like they would say things like "you didn't think this through" or "you're not mature enough to know" but I need tips to prepare! I don't have a necessarily homophobic family, but my brother and dad both insult trans/bi/gay people a decent amount, and it worries me. So does anyone have any tips on how to come out to them, and make them believe me? (I'm bi) then there's obviously the grandparents. my grandparents are also religious (hindus) so does anyone have tips for that?

gusty kindle
# tired garnet I need help. I don't plan on coming out to my parents for a little, because I fe...

omgs another person who comes from a hindu family. also, yeah. lowkey, the way i came out to my mom was through a letter (no.1 so I wouldnt chicken out no.2 so i could include facts and research) I'd say you could do this or a powerpoitn with links and facts. Also maybe bring up indian history with queerness, as there is a lot to be found with it (shiva being non explicitly male or female, gay relationships in the vedas, ect ect).

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I'd also say some out to one person at a time. If you feel your dad and brother may be unsupportive, go to your mother first. If you have one person in the family backing you already, it makes coming out less daunting.

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But, at the end of the day if you dont feel safe, dont do it. I came out to my mother as trans and she completely fucking ignored me and broke my heart, so like if you feel that may happen I wouldnt risk it.

tired garnet
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thank you for the advice! the tactic with bringing up our religion is really smart, since you are right! there is a lot of LGBTQIA+ stuff in hindu mythology. luckily, i think my family would be more supportive the older i get, but right now they might think i'm saying it on a whim. but this will really help me come out, thank you for the advice ❤️

gusty kindle
inner cedar
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Hey more Hindus in here! I initially entered this chat to help @ cooky8r , but now I'm curious about the whole lgbtq inclusion in Hindu mythology thing.

(As a Hindu with a homophobic family I've been kept from this golden nugget of info for far too long.)

tired garnet
inner cedar
# tired garnet welcome! any advice you for any sort of coming out is helpful, since my parents ...

Honestly I feel like @gusty kindle summarized all the advice i could've given better than I ever could, tho based on what you mentioned I would suggest maybe waiting a while until you are a bit older.
Gaining your parents's trust as someone who can make decisions is probably also a good step, so that they realize you're mature enough to not just be saying you're bi on a whim.

Depending on how much you can argue with your parents, you can also bring up that "if you're mature enough to have crushes on the opposite gender you're also mature enough to like the same gender."

tired garnet
inner cedar