Need help coming out as trans :3

[topaz lintel]

I need help coming out as trans to my mum I am a trans male and I don't know how to come out to her i need help with advice to tell her and I don't feel comfortable about being trans cause I don't understand myself but could somebody please help me with advice to tell my mum and help me understand being trans myself

[woven rover]

first of all is she conservative

safety #1 concern

[latent mirage]

I can ask my trans friend and give you their advice on how to understand being trans

be back with you in a second

[dusty glacier]

im not good with advice but i would say just man up and do it, i am a transgender male though im not very out about it considering i tend to blend in alot, i began dressing as a male around six years old i briefly spoke to my uncle once about it though never went too much into detail, if you do tell her id say just wait it out for abit shel eventually understand even if shes not fully accepting theres the little things they can always do, my name is legally changed on registers even though my uncle isnt exactly supportive of my life decisions, what i would ask for is what your mother is like and how you yourself think she will react to this big of a deal, it may seem little but for parents it can be a massive gamechanger when a child feels enough trust to share who they are with the caretaker

i explained that so horribly my sincerest apologies

[woven rover]

if she is probably dont tell her unless she's voiced acceptance of trans people or something
if she isnt then tell her that you are a guy and feel happier as one.

[topaz lintel]

I am already a guy

[woven rover]

if she already knows youre a trans guy why come out

[dusty glacier]

cause its sometimes important to let the cat outta the bag your asking bro to hide part of his identity cause she simply has a hunch

[topaz lintel]

i havent came out i mean i am a guy i was born a male

[dusty glacier]

are you ftm or mtf

[woven rover]

yeah im confused

[topaz lintel]

i still haven't decided on mtf

[dusty glacier]

you worded it as trans male though that typically suggests you were female to a male

[woven rover]

its ok you dont have to decide on a label your entire life
just what feels more comfortable

[topaz lintel]

i was born a guy and im trans and i do fem shit

[woven rover]

and if it stops feeling comfortable you can always change it

[woven rover]

transfem

[dusty glacier]

right we cleared that up

is it okay if i put you onto a buddy of mine?

@spare hill this idiot

[topaz lintel]

sure

hey im not an idiot im just autistic

[dusty glacier]

shes male to female aswell she might be able to speak with you

[woven rover]

no i think they called koyo an idiot not you

[dusty glacier]

no i was calling her an idiot lol

[topaz lintel]

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[dusty glacier]

she kinda is one

dont tell her i said that

[tribal hearth]

I'm not trans, but you should test it see for any homo/transphobia before coming out, mention something with some trans/lgbtq stuff with it and see her reaction

[topaz lintel]

i know shes not homo

[tribal hearth]

And that's good for you!

[spare hill]

Sorry I just woke up ;-;

[topaz lintel]

It's ok @dusty glacier was wondering if you could give me advice on coming out as trans

[spare hill]

I never really did the whole coming out thing to my parents as my mother found out through my socials ;-;

What I would say is find out what a close group of friends say first as you trust them and then kinda work your way up from there till you're comfortable with sharing it with your parents and that's pretty much all I can say really

[dusty glacier]

loser💔💔