#Being the Straight Child in a Gay Family: My Story

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opaque haven
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Hello everyone, I’m Duy.

I’m writing these words with a heavy heart and many thoughts I want to share. I’m adopted into a special family where both my parents are gay. They’re proud of who they are and have always hoped I would be like them — a gay person.

But the truth is, I can’t pretend. I’m straight — I love and am attracted to the opposite gender. I’ve tried to make them happy, to avoid disappointing them, but the more I try, the more I feel like I’m losing myself. The pressure is heavier than I ever imagined.

I’m standing at a crossroads, between living honestly as myself and preserving my relationship with my family. I’m afraid of losing them, but I’m also afraid of living a lie.

I hope to hear advice, empathy, and stories from anyone who has experienced similar feelings. I really need a place where I can be understood and supported.

Thank you all for reading and listening to my story. ❤️

carmine eagle
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i come for a all straight family and am bi not much different and my parents wanted me to be straight so this is my advice

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talk about this with friends or somebody else until your ready to tell your parents (or if you are alredy ready) if your parents dont accept you give them time or talk about it remember you dont have to change the way you are for someone else

lavish hare
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if your parents are gay, then i'd assume they're likely more lenient about your sexuality as part of the lgbtq+ community themselves.

you obviously know your parents better than i would, but i would guess if you told them you were straight, they'd probably be more accepting of it?

<3

dreamy zenith
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"They’re proud of who they are and have always hoped I would be like them — a gay person."

I think some re-evaluating would help here. I don't think they hope for you to be gay. I think the meaning of "be like them" would mean something along the lines of you being proud of who you are, without shame. Being straight won't disappoint them, however, not owning who you are may.

Hope this helps 🙂

spice socket