#I’m in a pickle… (pun intended)

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cyan aurora
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So, I have ally parents, but am still afraid to speak my voice…

For starters, my mother and father have been divorce since I was very young, and my mother has always known that she was a lesbian. My mother has dated many women through out the years, but for about 4-5 years now we have been living with her current girlfriend.

I have always been told that I should date woman and that men are gross and only want s#% by my mother, therefore I have identified as Asexual Bisexual for the past year, but if I’m being honest I believe I am a Asexual straight person. Now, I don’t even know if this is even considered coming out, because everyone knows I’m asexual and bi already, but I don’t know how my “gays are superior (straight people 🤮)” group chat would react to this. For a while I did think I was bi, but I don’t really have any attraction towards woman. Should I stay bi to keep the peace, or just be honest with everyone and feel like I’m going to get side eyed? Someone help 😭

swift peak
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hii!

first, ig your mother shouldn't be enforcing your attraction. it's your identity and you shouldn't be pressured to be anything, even if those pressuring you are allies. she's not really helping you, it sounds more like she's projecting her own experiences onto you. nobody should push you into liking anyone

you also shouldnt be forced into any label. its valid to be ace and straight, maybe you could tell your closest friend in the gc.

if you don't feel like telling your mother, then don't. wait until it feels safe or right for you.

so, if your friends are supportive, ig they would be supportive if you were only ace. you could also try telling your closest friend how you've been feeling and what happened with your mother and how your mother was pushing you to date girls.

also, like, your mother says men only want s.x? 😭 thats just a generalization, a messed up generalization :(

hope things get better soon! if you need anything, reply here or dm me anytime. good luck!!!

cyan aurora