Hi, I am mostly out of the closet to my mom and her boyfriend (they are both amazing people and support me very much) I chose my new name as Azia, Im just going to say that im not good with conversation and I do have anxiety, I havent come out to the rest of my family except for my dad (which thankfully went better than I expected) I think they are all supportive but I cant be sure, I have a trans pride pin that I always wear on my hat and I dont know if they havent seen it or are just waiting for me to bring up the conversation but it stresses me out, My grandparents mean the world to me and I would literally kill myself if they didnt accept me, How do I tell my mom that I have a new name? I have a sister on the way and id like her to know my new name by the time shes born, I dont want to make too many of these posts because I feel like im just dumping my issues on all of you, thank you in advance for any advice
#Tell my mom about my new name and coming out to the rest of my family
hearty moon
feral abyss
Hi Azia! Congrats on coming out to your mom and her bf! I know that anxiety can make it difficult to talk about going by a different name to the people that are already familiar with your deadname. That said, since they are supportive, I think the best way (although I know it's really hard to do so and it will take a long time to be ready for, if ever) is to tell them directly, and if you can't speak to them, sending mom a text with this information could also work. It's very possible they already know but are waiting for you to be ready to talk about being trans.
Of course, I don't really know your life circumstances, so the best way to approach this may be difficult know for sure, but since your mom and her bf have been supportive and understanding, I think trying to tell them would be reasonable.
Best of luck! I wish you all the best. -Jeanne
hearty moon
I forgot to add, my mom tends to struggle with the whole calling me "she" thing, I have to remind her and she calls me "they" whenever she corrects herself, shes really trying but its still hard
hearty moon
Her BF is better at getting my preferred pronouns right than my mom is, im thinking maybe because she has been calling me by male pronouns and my deadname for the last 17 years
eternal valve
I forgot to add, my mom tends to struggle with the whole calling me "she" thing,...
My family had a similar situation when my sister came out to us as non binary. It took us a long time to use they/them. I'd be patient with her, if she's been using specific pronouns for a long time, it's probably taking a while to adjust