#I don’t know how to come out…

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stray olive
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So I’m bi (and have known that for a few months now), but I’ve only come out to my online friends and one of my irl friends. The thing is, I don’t know how to tell anyone else. My online friends are almost all lgbtq+, and so they were really supportive. The only reason why I came out to my irl friend was because she’s the one who asked. I was thinking of telling my mom (I’ll wait to tell my sisters), along with two of my best friends in June, but I think it would be better to wait at least another year to tell my mom, so she can’t say stuff like “Oh, it’s just a phase, you’ll grow out of it” or “You’re too young to know that”. I am planning on telling my irl friends in June though, but I still don’t know how. Does anyone have any advice or anything? (I’m sorry, this is my problem and y’all have actual reasons to post here, but still I could use some advice lol)

gloomy tusk
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what i've noticed with my coming out journey is that depending on where you are, your friends are way more likely to support you than your parents. you don't have to have an elaborate coming out celebration for your friends, and it can honestly just be as much as just having a conversation with them being like "yeah i think i like girls and boys". especially if you are on the younger end (Gen Z/young millenial), they're going to love you as their friend no matter what, and if they don't, then they don't actually care about you. as for your parents, it really depends on the area you live in, and seeing as you're coming out as bi, they're probably going to hope you just end up marrying a man. i know from my experience being bisexual that that is the case. my only advice right now would be to come out when you're ready. obviously, i can't give too much because i don't know what your parents are like, but even if they say it's a phase, it's better than being disowned. either way, best of luck to you!

misty crystal
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I myself woudent wait at all, but my personality woudent let me hide such things TwT. But I would say, first think what is important to you and how you can put that into words, maby even write it down to collect your thoughts better. But you can always also just be straight forward when the first thing dosnt work, just straight up saying that you like both boys and girls, and that you found out becouse of it that your bi.

Ooh, And it's kinda important that you do it in a comfortable inviroment, it dosnt change much but it is a help for one themselves. I wish you the best and that everthing will go smoothly <3 uwu

stray olive
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Thank you both so much, I kinda have been needing this lately lol. I’m planning on telling some of my friends in a bit, and I’ll definitely keep all this in mind, as it’s really useful. I’ll keep y’all updated, just once again, thank you <3 (Sorry about not responding sooner, I blink and it has somehow been like a week aggressively_sobbing )

stray olive