Asexuality

[vital sparrow]

I want to come out to my family members but I'm not sure how to go along with it, my mom is the weird type to say that she likes people of the lgbtq community yet makes harsh remarks and stuff despite saying that she doesn't mind them.

The thing is with my asexuality is that my mom, dad, uncle and the rest of my family assumes that all want to have kids one day and that all this talk about how I don't feel the want to do "it" is just in my head and it'll pass.

What is the best way to talk to her about it and also my dad because even though he's more welcoming to it I just don't want to disappoint him I guess because there's that small percentage he may not react well because he does want kids one day .

Also there's just this weird feeling especially with all the discourse regarding weather asexual people are part of the lgbtq community it just makes me feel slightly discouraged to come out to the people I care about and tell them that I am because it feels like it's not "come outable" enough or whatever the term may be

[coarse dagger]

o gods

[vital sparrow]

Yeahhh

[torpid current]

I think the core question is:
Have you made peace with every possible reaction — even the worst — and still feel ready to come out anyway?
Because no matter how well you explain it, how persuasive or clear your words are, people will still react emotionally. That’s their process. You're introducing something they might not fully understand yet, and they'll need time — and space — to deal with it.

That’s where task separation comes in:
Your task is to speak your truth. Their task is to process it — and whether they understand, accept, or resist, that’s on them.

If you can hold that boundary, you’ll feel less shaken by whatever response comes. It won’t mean you don’t care — it means you’re honoring your truth without carrying the emotional responsibility of others.