#All these people talking about coming out gets me thinking...

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austere sigil
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Ive been pan for a while mabye a year or 2 ( im 13 ) and i always thought i would just never tell anyone irl about it so i dont have to worry, mabye even waiting until im an adult.
But with everyone talking about it i dont know if i should keep it a secret. i never wanted to say it to prevent making a big deal over something that doesnt really matter.
And the reason i didnt want to do it because i know at my age my parents or family wouldnt take it serious and would just take me off the internet. and i cant survive without discord lets be real.

Thoughts?

fierce dawn
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same bro

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and i cannot believe your parents wont even take you seriously

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please dont tell me they said you’re being “brainwashed”

austere sigil
# fierce dawn please dont tell me they said you’re being “brainwashed”

i havent told them.. yet. but us being australian i dont think they would be that rude. my dad is extremely nice and an amazing dad but idk man ( mother isnt in life )
i also have a feeling my brother is like trans or smth. idk but he has signs so i think he would the my first stepping stone if i was to tell my dad. but i still think i should just never tell them.

austere sigil
fierce dawn
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i feel you should talk to your brother first, i find that younger people are more accepting. Itll also be a confidence boost if you want to tell your dad

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also id advise you to have a little plan of what to say, it’ll help with the stress

fathom brook
# austere sigil Ive been pan for a while mabye a year or 2 ( im 13 ) and i always thought i woul...

honestly, i might recommend just keeping it a secret from your family until you're older. when i was 14, i tried to tell my parents i was gender-neutral and asexual, and they thought i was "too young" to make the decision at that age. now i'm 18, and my parents still don't really know about my gender identity or sexuality. for me it's worked out fine, but it does kinda depend on your personal preferences. sometimes, it absolutely can feel like too much, and you might really wish you could just tell your family. in that case, your brother does sound promising, and even if they aren't trans, i feel like siblings are less likely to be judgy than parents.

just my personal opinion, take it or leave it haha