#I am in the closet with anti LGBTQ parents, family, friends , community and religion

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quiet pulsar
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I am Transfem and Bi and i dont have any sisters and my parents are so strict I can't even wear jeans or grow out my hair

terse wedge
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I would recommend trying to stay closeted until you're 18 for your own safety as trying to come out in an unsafe environment can be risky to your well-being

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At 18, you will be legally considered an adult and will be able to move out from your parents house

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Even then, try to love yourself for who you are as a person

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Remember that you will always have people to support you and talk to (i.e online friends) and you are important

quiet pulsar
quiet pulsar
terse wedge
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I understand

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Sometimes that safest option is to do something you are scared of doing

quiet pulsar
quiet pulsar
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the most feminine thing I have is baggy sweatpants

terse wedge
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Hell is somewhere for people who do very bad things. Being trans and queer and trying to keep yourself safe isn't a bad thing. If you would like, I am happy to be your friend so that you know that you won't be lonely because I will be here

quiet pulsar
terse wedge
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True

quiet pulsar
terse wedge
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I get that, a lot of religions are very strict about being cis and hetero

quiet pulsar
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And being cut off from everyone

terse wedge
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Unfortunately, all I can offer in this situation is support as I'm not very educated on other religions that aren't Christian based

quiet pulsar
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I always wanted estrogen pills or some sort of feminine clothing...

terse wedge
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If you are to live in your own house and still under the same religion, would the option of dressing femininely in private be open to you?

quiet pulsar
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yes

terse wedge
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I would recommend that then!

quiet pulsar
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Yea but it does not help that much

terse wedge
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Yea, fair enough

quiet pulsar
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it will only help temporarily

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and i live with my parents rn obviously

terse wedge
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In your religion, do women have any specific customs? (I.e how most Muslim women wear a hijab)

quiet pulsar
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yes

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but I am not muslim

terse wedge
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Yea I wasn't trying to assume your religion was Muslim, I was more using that as an example

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Would trying to conform to customs for women in your religion help at all?? Even if just when you're older and able to buy your own clothes

quiet pulsar
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How would I do that with out raising suspicion?

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I do say some prayers meant for women only

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sometimes

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Which helps a little

terse wedge
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I would say do that and then very slowly transition into female customs over time

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I'm not sure how suspicious it will look, but if it's slowly, people might not notice fully

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Keyword might

quiet pulsar
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It is noticeable

quiet pulsar
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or at least transition but I am scared

terse wedge
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i’m sorry that it is difficult for you to transition. i wish it were easier

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i wish the world were more accepting

quiet pulsar
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i hope

bright ivy
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I might be quite late but, you can always borrow clothes from your female friends (or transfem friends), hide them well and let's say if you go to school, change into those clothes at there. You can also let your friends do your makeup at school etc. Although I don't know how strict your school is, you can also do it in other places, or let's say If you're going out with your friends, you can change into more feminine clothes at their house. Do remember though, you absolutely do not have to be feminine to be a woman, nor do you need to have long hair. There are many masculine cis women, just like a trans man does absolutely not need to be masculine to be considered a man.

terse wedge
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this^^^

terse wedge