Tw Mental health and Religious Family. I'm not doing well right now. Vent

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I have been trans since Febuary of 2023, and I have family members who are very devoted to Christianity and have treated me poorly ever since... I can only have Shoulder height hair and still have to wear Female clothes that look gender neutral or masculine I get misgendered 247 I still get deadnamed... I feel like they are disappointed in me ashamed of me ect It doesn't help either since my mom just preached at me today. and keeps blaming everyone else for who I am I'm sick of it I just want to be loved and accepted...this has taken a toll on my mental health in many ways... (I'm not comfortable explaining what) I just wish I had a different family and was someone else. who lived elsewhere in the world... I don't feel like anything is getting better or going to get better...

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Have you ever tried to elaborate on this to your parents?

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I have but my mom just will not even try to accept or understand me my dad accepts me though

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Im glad your dad accepts you, is it just for religious reasons that your mom wont accept you?

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yeah but she uses it as an excuse

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Wdym

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basically she'll say god is against it or something even though that's not true

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and refuse to accept it bc the church and her bible says it's bad

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Tell her to hear the preachings of late pope francis because he is THE christian, have her find the verses where it says that being queer is bad

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she wouldn't bc he was catholic and his bible and religion is wrong in her eyes

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Or if its really worth losing connection with their child for a book written thousands of years ago

This is why I hate religion smh my head

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i would love to say that but it'd be better if i do that when i'm an adult

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i only respect it if you are respectful and don't do what my mom does

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Valid

Im not sure what other advice or help I can give to you since it seems your mom is stuck to her ways

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it's okay my uncle wants me to do the same (he supports me dw)

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Ok

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thanks for the advice though

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You are welcome

[desert gazelle]

maybe your uncle and dad can start to try to explain to some people that its not wrong and its never been told to be wrong i have alot of religious people in my life and a close trans friend we went to probably the most religious teacher in our school told him about it and he said that he doesnt look down on it cause god loves everyone just the way they are if that doesnt help is there maybe a way that you can appeal to your family so that they stop being like this to you so that you can just not get bullied basically and than after all of that you can be old enough to move out and just not interact with family and just be yourself the process might seem hard cause of dysphoria ofc but i believe in you you got this good luck out there and stay safe

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I can try my dad is better at reasoning with my mom than I am and I will thank you

[desert gazelle]

np 😄 always here to help