ITS TOO HARD

[iron fern]

Its so hard for me to say that im an intersex and nonbinary to most of my friends. Everytime they ask. Are you a girl or a boy IM HAVING IDENTITY CRISIS

[dense glen]

if you feel like telling them you should, it’s a part of who you are and they should support that

[iron fern]

Thank you, I already tell some but not all. I might tell them all when im really ready

I already come out in the strawpage but ig none my irl friends that are homophobics have seen it

[safe granite]

Okay so question if your intersex what does that have to do with Homophobia? Like you keep bringing up homophobia and intersex when both these things are two totally diffrent things.

[dense glen]

theyre also nonbinary though

[safe granite]

So let me ask you a couple hard questions lets start off with why your trying to lie about indonesian not being LGBTQIA+ friendly yes maybe in some areas but others are very accepting of people. 2. Why are you friends with homophobic people when your part of the LGBTQIA+ community. 3. Why do you keep comparing homophobia with intersex people when they are two totally different things and not the same thing at all.

[safe granite]

Right most intersex people are non-binary. As intersex people are mostly between male and female cause of how they are born so most dont classify as one gender right off the bat. Unless they have surgery and was not informed of being born intersex and that does happen.

The fact this OP is constantly comparing Intersex people who are born with medical conditions is the same thing as a gay person who loves the same sex is my issue. When they are two totally diffrent things and do not go hand and hand in the slightest.

[iron fern]

1.I am talking bout my experience and i could clarify that there's also Indonesian that accept lgbtq+ 2.For the friends part, I tend to befriend everybody as long as they want to. So in most server or to my irl i have to identity with only one specific gender. How i know they're homophobic? Because some bring the topic about how the community keep getting bigger 3.and yes im wrong at that part ngl im sorry might delete that part or delete this thread

[safe granite]

I mean I am sorry that your dealing with that but spreading a blanket statement saying all of Indonesian is anti LGBTQIA+ is just not true when they had rights to marriage and inheritance and rights to live as any other male or female longer then the USA has had it. Same sex marriage was taken away from people in the USA for years. in certain states.

[iron fern]

Also my english is kinda poor i get it i might give some misunderstanding

Thanks for telling i respect it

[safe granite]

Its okay thats why I asked you to clearify cause I know english is probly not your first language and sorry if I came off wrong

[safe granite]

I also very much understand that being intersex can sometimes feel very lonly cause we are not high in population. I mean we only make up maybe at max 2 percent of the worlds population and thats an acutal very small number. Leaving it so we feel very alone and hard to find each other.

[iron fern]

For real its hard for me sometime to explain it 💔

[safe granite]

Trust me I understand as someone who is intersex and nonbinary as well I fully get it more then you know.

[safe granite]

Thats kinda why i am like why be friends with those types of people to me a friend is someone who loves you no matter what you are as long as your not harming other people or animals you know what i mean.

[iron fern]

From my personal experience some friends I got from dc tends to accept me more then the one i have irl. Even my irl that i've been really close with also use dc. This app is something ngl

[safe granite]

Sometimes the best friends and family you can have are internet ones and its cause you can talk more openly on the net then public in real life.

[iron fern]

Totally agree

[safe granite]

What may help you not feel so alone to be honest is realize that our community meaning the full LGBTIQA+ community is rather large and getting bigger every year.