Am I in the wrong here or not, I really can't tell.

[tawdry bear]

Ok so I know most of the posts here are about LGBTQ problems but this isn't really about that? I just need some feedback because Im a bit stuck.
For context, im in a server with 4 of my friends that I love dearly and I love hanging out with, and I sent a screenshot of a message I sent to a member in a server I modded in that was me telling them they would be kicked for purposely acting out and making members uncomfortable (I got permission from the owner to send this message) and after that they got very mad at me, saying all of it was uncalled for ect ect. Though during that time I was very busy for multiple reasons, which really wasn't any of their business but they said I was ignoring them! Just because I went offline after and was offline for days they were convinced I was ignoring the conflict when I wasn't, I have been dealing with mental health, health, school, family, and pet issues for weeks now and just dont have time to get on my computer, if I do, im just so tired and dont want to reply. When I finally replied they kept accusing me of trying to ignore conflict and putting it on other people to get out of trouble, which I wasn't doing. (they only got this because I was mentioning how most of them had done the same thing and they were fine with it so why is it bad with me, a genuine question) Today when I woke up, I was immediately getting ready to do something for the day because again im busy, I always check my notifications if I have time (doesnt mean I have time to REPLY) and now my best friend IRL who just invited me to go camping with them is saying their 'scared of me' because 'ill just ignore them'. And I was only going to this camp thing because he asked , basically its a church camp and I dont like church im not religious, I just said I'd go to support my friend, now I don't want to go at all, but I don't want to tell my mom because we've already bought everything to go and filled out papers. So now im pretty sure I just lost 4 friends. opinions?

[paper rock]

Your defenetly not in the wrong, but you can try to explain the others how it really went, saying that your buss with very personal stuff that you don't want to say (when, you didn't already tried explaining.)

[tawdry bear]

ok thank you, maybe I should I just cant tell because they are not believing me when I say I wasn't ignoring them and its so frustrating.

[paper rock]

It often helps to be a bit more detailed, but when you really don't wanna tell them what it really is, you can be very vague and explain that it's very personal. I really hope you get back together with them and it all will be cleared up :3

[tawdry bear]

same ty for replying I just felt really bad because now when doing things all I can do is think about them and its really putting off my good days, and maybe Ill go into more detail because clearly they don't believe me which I find rude because I never lie about like anything unless Its personal and I dont want to say but I was genuinely being honest. I also feel really bad because its not my server, and since the conflict, its so dead and I feel like ive ruined everything.

[tepid hedge]

i understand your situation rn, i’ve been in a kind of similar situation already, you didn’t ruin anything, you were busy with your personal stuff and if you don’t want to tell them about it it’s completely fine, be sure to set your boundaries and just tell them what you really want to, don’t just tell them stuff you feel uncomfortable telling, so they believe you! take care of yourself please, it’s important to handle your personal problems and if they don’t accept that and don’t believe you then they’re being rude to you and you should maybe think about if it’s all of them- like if it’s just all of them together that they’re being mean to you, is there maybe one person of them you could talk to privately, who you trust and who’d support you? in my experience, there’s often like that people are being mean when they’re together but when youre just with one of them they’re really nice to you, i don’t know your friends so i can’t rly help with that but it might be worth thinking about, i also get that they’re being mean to you but you still love them and don’t want to lose them, i’ve been in a similar situation and understand how you feel, i think if you really want to stay friends with them even tho they’re being mean you should try talking to them separately, you’re in a difficult situation and you should probably give yourself some days off, where you take care of yourself<3

[tawdry bear]

ok thank you so much this really helped, and same goes to you, take care of yourself well, and I hope your situation went well sense you had something similar happen <3