#I need help

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delicate crane
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im reposting this because i did not get an answer last time:

I feel like I'm a girl sometimes, well almost all of the time... and sometimes I feel like a boy. I kind of "fantasize" being a girl. idk if I would use fantasize but...
Idk if I would be genderfluid. I dont even know what that really means... I think I want to be a girl but I just dont know.... Can someone help me please...? I have had feelings like this for about 3 and a half years. I know its not gender envy. I have my pronouns set to she/her and when people ask me about it, I play it off as im catfishing people... But I dont want to have to do that...

Also If I were to come out as trans or genderfluid, how would I tell my parents, I know they would support me, but its just uncomfortable telling them something like that... How would my family (outside of immediate family react to that) I'm super insecure for absolutely no reason. I have no Idea why but I just am. And also what would my friends think... They know me as a boy, I dont know how they would feel about me being a girl... Anyone know what I should do?

Edit: im pretty sure im trans

tribal shoal
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From everything you've said — about feeling like a girl most of the time, using she/her pronouns, and how long you've had these feelings — it really does sound like you might be trans. And if that feels right to you, then that’s valid. You don’t have to be 100% sure or have all the answers right now. Exploring who you are takes time, and there’s no rush or perfect way to figure it out.

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I know coming out to parents and friends can feel scary, even if you think they'll be supportive. That fear and insecurity is totally normal, and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. You deserve to feel comfortable being yourself, in your own time and at your own pace.

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no matter what you decide to call yourself or how you present, we're all here for you 💜

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truthfully, the thing that helped me the most was just giving myself space to experiment when i was alone. like, no pressure, no one watching, just me figuring things out. i started trying on fem clothes — even just stuff i had lying around or little things like a hoodie, or doing my hair differently, or layering things in a more feminine way. at first it felt weird or like i was pretending, but honestly, it made me feel right in a way nothing else really had.

it’s not about suddenly being super feminine or having everything figured out, it’s just about exploring what makes you feel more like yourself. there's so many little tips and ideas out there — on tiktok, youtube, reddit — stuff like how to style your clothes, ways to soften your look, even how to carry yourself in ways that feel more aligned with who you are. for me, it wasn’t just the clothes, it was the freedom to see myself differently — and that gave me the clarity i needed. like, “oh... this feels like me.”

delicate crane
delicate crane
tribal shoal
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which clothes? if you dont mind me asking

delicate crane
delicate crane
delicate crane
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also have you come out to your parents? If you have, how did you tell them, what did you say? If you dont mind me asking.

tribal shoal
tribal shoal
delicate crane
delicate crane
tribal shoal
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Let's just talk in sms if I want no need to talk here anymore