So basically I'm bi (or gay idrk) and I firstly told my dad who was not supportive but not hating like "Do what you want". But I talked about that ONLY TO HIM, not to my mother. Because I have some impression that she would probably not support me and my sexuality at all. First, when she sometimes feels that something is wrong with me (like effeminate manners) she always says "You're scaring me"... And then when she talks about trans she always says "Don't you dare to become a drag Queen or a trans or I will humiliate you like you did.". Also the tension due to my two parents separated is also a reason why I don't talk about that to her, since it would make her even more mad about me and my father (for no reason though). So what do you think, should I come out to her anyway? Or should I wait longer?
#I have to come out to my mom but I don't know if it's a good idea
signal quarry
onyx hemlock
I think (and it's probably something you thought about..) that you don't have to do it. It's your life and, if you want her yo know then tell her. But if it make you uncomfortable then just wait until your ready and until you think she is !
Take your time, there is no rush
drowsy stone
repeat after me, you don't have to come out if you aren't ready
signal quarry
I think (and it's probably something you thought about..) that you don't have to...
Yes that's what I was planning to do, but I fear that she discovers one day and that she would be even more mad saying "YOU LIED TO ME??"
drowsy stone
her problems ngl
drowsy stone
Yes that's what I was planning to do, but I fear that she discovers one day and ...
i mean she is already hateful, she won't magically change her mind no matter what you do
signal quarry
i mean she is already hateful, she won't magically change her mind no matter wha...
Yuh..
onyx hemlock
Yes that's what I was planning to do, but I fear that she discovers one day and ...
That's not a lie, you're juste not ready
And it's okay
signal quarry
I'm not ready yes, but I think she would really be mad if she knows that I hid that to her
drowsy stone
I'm not ready yes, but I think she would really be mad if she knows that I hid t...
tbh her approval doesn't matter that much
signal quarry
tbh her approval doesn't matter *that much*
Really?
drowsy stone
yes it's sad to not receive support from "family" but like
onyx hemlock
She's not the one that live your life
signal quarry
She's not the one that live your life
Yeah but the problem is that, and I didn't mention it, is that she wants to live CLOSE TO ME anyway 💀😭
drowsy stone
and you can say no
signal quarry
She wants to live in the same city as me
drowsy stone
focus on having a job and independent life
you can say no to your parent
signal quarry
focus on having a job and independent life
you can say no to your parent
Hm...maybe right
I haven't tried yet
onyx hemlock
She's like that because it's your mother and she cares about you (maybe I'm wrong, I don't know your family history..) but I agree with Aquami. You can say no to her, when you're ready. There is time !