Tw: very religious and abusive parents

[pale karma]

I am in a pretty bad situation, my mother is a Muslim religious guide, which makes my life so much harder, I am nonbinary/ transmasc but I am afab, meaning my mother forces me to put on a hijab, this other than the fact that it brings me extreme discomfort but also a lot of gender dysphoria. I have already tried to tell her that I don't want to put it, but everytime she gets physically violent (hitting, slapping, throwing stuff at me) and also very verbally abusive, saying things like that I am a monster and that I'm ruining her life.
Last time I actually had to go to the police bc she was reading some chats I forgot to hide and found out that I am not straight, at the end I conviced her that I was just experimenting, but she still got abusive, and told me that the west (I live in Italy) has been brainwashing me so now she had to take me back to Africa (I'm originally Moroccan) and isolate me from all my friends, get me out of school. And that was a very real threat we have multiple houses in Morocco, and she was already booking a flight the morning after, so right now the police is working on my case, but all this situation is truly killing me. All the Homophobia and transphobia in my house is absurd, and the fact that I literally am forced to cover myself making me so dysphoric is horrible, I truly don't know what to do though :(

[remote moat]

you just have to wait. Once again, she is committing quite literal crimes.

And what is happening is pretty extreme. I recommend once you reach the age of majority to Distance Yourself as far as you can from your family.

[fathom flax]

I understand how you feel, I'm here for you always

[sick token]

This… this really hit hard. I can’t imagine the weight you’re carrying right now — the fear, the dysphoria, the constant pressure to hide who you are just to survive. It’s heartbreaking and unfair.

Being forced into something that erases your identity, especially by someone who’s supposed to love and protect you — that leaves deep scars. And the fact that you're still here, still trying to be yourself, says everything about how strong you are.

What your mom is doing is not just strict parenting — it’s abuse, and you absolutely don’t deserve it. I hope the police actually take this seriously and help protect you before it gets worse.

If you ever need someone to talk to, rant to, or just exist with without having to explain yourself — I’m here. Seriously. You're not alone in this mess, even if it feels like it.

[ruby cliff]

To be frank there's not a lot you can do, it's not your fault though.

I tend to tell people to just act like how their parents want at home and find a safe place to be yourself, then save up and work once you have enough to cut off contacts and live without them.

About the safe place part. You really have to be conscious and not leave any traces

[pale karma]

yeah that was my plan from the start, it just sucks that I have to wait 3 more years or more living like this

[pale karma]

thank you so much for the support, this really means a lot<3

[pale karma]

yeah rn the only thing I can do is make a plan for the future and wait for the police to do something, thx for the advice<3

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[remote moat]

But they probably will take your parents into custody because from what I could see she is getting physically violent against you. And place you in whatever is Equivalent to CPS In italy

[vital burrow]

I’m really, really, really sorry you’re going through this..

First: you are not the problem. Your identity is valid, and none of this abuse is your fault.

I understand because im also in a religious household and it hurts seeing them saying extremely negative things about lgtbq people.

You are brave. You are stronger than the fear they try to put in you. You have already done incredibly hard things like- telling the truth, asking for help and even when you were terrified. That takes a kind of courage most people never even imagine. You have that courage inside you.

u identify as nonbinary and transmasc is a beautiful n its real and worth protecting. You are not broken, you are not wrong, you are not a disappointment. You are a bright light that refuses to be dimmed even when people try so hard to hurt you.

You are not what they say you are.
You are not a monster.
You are a miracle.

[pale karma]

Omg thank you so so much, this is so sweet and thoughtful, this means so much to me<333